I'm on lovely holiday with my family, so it's going to be hard probably to feel sorry for me! Although I'm at my wits' end and I can't see this clearly any more. AIBU? Or just completely petty?
Here's the story... Sorry it's long.
Our travel company didn't check us in for our flights and me and dc1 ended up on standby (initially it was just me on standby), which meant 2 hours of phoning around for flights then travelling that evening 300miles by train to get a flight the next day. Dh didn't offer to swap places, he went happily off with dh2 while I had 10 yo on a train with most of the drunk people in England at 11pm on a Saturday night. Not the best experience ever...
However - this is the bit that's really got me. Here we are sailing and windsurfing and whatnot and dc at kids club having a great time - it's a lovely place. Dh finishes class at midday and says his sailing group are having a presentation this evening at 6. Great I say, I'll take dc2 to early dinner so he can get to his kids' movie night at 7.30. At 5pm dh showers and says he's going for drinks with his sailing group. He has form on telling half-truths so I'm genuinely not surprised that it's not a presentation. I take dc2 for dinner etc. Dc1 wants to have dinner with dh and me later instead of with his group which is fine by me. I text my dh at 7.45 (as I've heard nothing from him) that dc1 and me are going for dinner at 8 and he's welcome to join us.
Dh returns at a trot at 7.55 to say you must come for a drink, everyone has partners there. I say no thanks... So this is why I'm p-ed off.
- He had no intention of asking me even tho others had partners there - wtf?! I would never do that to him
- He was quite happy to leave me sitting on my own (as far as he knew) waiting for him in our apartment - on holiday
- He had no intention of coming back and no intention of telling me what he was doing
- He only came back as he realised he'd have to eat dinner on his own as I still was with dc1
- He was then Very cross that I wouldn't come for a drink. (This is sort of related - I'm on antibiotics so can't drink (although I'm happy not to drink alcohol anyway these days!) as I had to visit doc for gum infection - we're in Greece, my dh speaks Greek and he didn't offer to come with me).
As it was 8pm and dc1 hadn't eaten and I was not up for doing my usual doormat pretend we have a perfect family stuff I thought I'd take a stand and continued to say no to drinks. He went off and said he'd quickly finish up - and came back at 8.25.
He was pissed off at dinner as I'd clearly ruined his evening. He shouted at the kids when we got back and made dc1 cry for wanting to watch the news.
AIBU to hate this? It's supposed to be a holiday. Never felt so alone, I'd leave right now - this minute - if it weren't for the dcs.
AIBU? Oh god, I hope I'm not.