I have already emailed the school so I am really thinking about whether I should have held off or if I should talk to the parents now or at all. Anyway I need to explain.
My dd1 is 10 and in y5 and has been diagnosed as High Functioning ASD. She walks home from school alone but calls me on her mobile (a very cheap one) and talks to me for the duration of the 10 min walk. Before Xmas I was meeting her from school most days which was difficult as I need to meet dd2 at a different school at roughly the same time. This phone call solution has had its problems when her phone was lost or left at him or ran out of charge but we have made it work well on the whole.
Today though I heard a group of girls tease and taunt dd while she was on the phone to me. They accused her of pretending to talk to someone, said they would punch her if she didn't show them the phone and were mocking her frustrated reaction. DD was very clear that she wanted them to leave her alone and they didn't. And I heard it all. I also know the mum's of two of the girls involved quite well and I think they would be horrified at least I hope so.
I have spoken to dd and she is ok, but I am concerned that she already finds the walk home difficult she needs the safety net of being able to talk to me and this is going to add to her feelings of self consciousness and difference. She cant understand why they couldn't just leave her alone, the girls should have respected her requests and they have all known her since they were little. One of them went to dds 5th birthday party
I immediately emailed the school and have asked them to speak to the school outlining what I had heard and asking them to speak to the girls as dd is vulnerable and needs support. I have been measured and calm but firm and i am not asking for punishment or anything extreme.
I am wondering what to say to the mothers I know if I should leave it to the school to deal with. I hate difficult conversations but I do think that they would probably want to know. It is hard, dd is my priority and I want to protect her. But I know worse happens it was just awful hearing it all and not being there physically. What should I do?
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should i have talked to parents before the school?
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FlemCandango · 11/07/2016 16:47
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