So dh and I both have health issues. His issues are probably more long term and require frequent blood test's. I have had multiple symptoms but my issues are less permanent.
I a a Sah and dh is employed in a high level job.
So about 2 years ago I had a colonoscopy under sedation which thankfully was clear. Dh couldn't spare the time to take a day off so he wfh and took me in and collected me. In theory I wasn't supposed to be in charge of small children for 24 hours but upon collecting me from hospitals he decided he needed a blood test. He suggested me and 2 and 8 year old wait in car whilst he did this. I refused as I didn't want 8 year old having responsibility if I was poorly. Do we all went to blood test section but J was the one running after toddler even before dh went in. The rest of the day I spent looking after DC whilst he worked. Fortunately I was fine. A few months later he took day off for him to go on a day out do he could have taken day off for me.
So tomorrow I am having minor op under GA as a day case. He is dropping me off and collecting and I have arranged for a family member to be there tomorrow to look after DC and me if discharged early.
On Tuesday dh has taken day off as I need an adult with me for 24 hours and my family member can't stay but yet again he is sneaking off to get s blood test done.
Ainu to be fed up that my needs seen to always be trumped by his.
AIBU?
To be pissed off that he has done it again
Highlandfling80 · 10/07/2016 23:59
Yes he could obviously book the day off.
Why does he run off for a blood test whenever he is in a hospital?
Hope all goes well with your op 
Yes, it sounds like he doesn't take looking after you / being available for you / your health very seriously. He thinks 'day off, what can I get done for me'.
I guess that by defining his issues as more serious than yours, he's mentally negated yours, in a 'one nil' game, or sees them just as inconvenience, rather than seeing both as real and serious, his sometimes more serious, yours more important when something's happening.
Hope all goes well for you tomorrow (it will of course)
Actually "sneaking off" is a fair description - he is finding a way to sidestep his responsibilities.
The OP is not choosing to engage in a competition 
. She just wants her 'D'H to actually show some basic consideration of her health issues. It's not unreasonable for him to look after her and DC after an op, ffs. As for the sedation and needing someone with you for 24 hrs - I was offered a night in hospital if I couldn't find anyone to watch me when I got back after a sedation, that is how seriously they take it. OP should not have been left looking after DC.
Try to get some sleep OP, and hopefully posters better able to advise will be along in the morning. All the best, and YADNBU!
Oh and "Time off to look after X = time for me" I heard an incredible one of these.
My then best friend was having her second child. Paternity leave sorted, nursery decorated, bag packed. All was good. Then a week before her EDD, her husband said that he really needed to get to B&Q to make sure they had everything ready. She was a bit confused as she thought that the nursery was sorted. It was. He needed to buy the paint to redecorate their lounge during his PL as it needed doing and he didnt want to waste his 2 weeks "off".
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I had a boyfriend like this once... whenever I was ill or had an appointment he magically come down with something that was "worse". 
I was never looked after, never supported because no matter what my needs were or how sick I was, he turned it around and made it about himself as he craved attention. As someone else said, it's like a game some people play about who is the most sick and point scoring. Very silly.
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