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TheRadiantAerynSun Sun 10-Jul-16 18:51:32

Not a wedding, but a christening.

My cousin has invited us to her DD's christening, but it's an evening only invite. I don't really mind (saves me having to keep DS quiet through the ceremony) but I've never heard of this before. Is that a thing now?

AIBU to think it a bit unusual!

ILoveAGoodBrusselSprout Sun 10-Jul-16 18:57:30

Ive never heard of that. I thought Christenings generally took place around lunchtime, after a church service, and went on till around tea time.

Sorry, I'm no use grin

nightandthelight Sun 10-Jul-16 18:58:28

Never heard of that in my life! Christenings are usually strictly daytime affairs. Clearly this one is being run more as a wedding.

SooticaTheWitchesCat Sun 10-Jul-16 18:59:33

I have never heard of this either. I haven't been to many Christenings but they have always been in the afternoon and everyone goes home by early evening.

sonlypuppyfat Sun 10-Jul-16 19:00:53

Again a christening being used as an excuse for a party

Aeroflotgirl Sun 10-Jul-16 19:01:36

Never heard of this, Christenings take place usually around lunchtime or in the afternoon, and then a celebration afterwards usually in the house or hall.

VimFuego101 Sun 10-Jul-16 19:02:23

Never heard of daytime vs evening invites for Christenings before!

SweetieDrops Sun 10-Jul-16 19:04:01

That's weird. The whole point of the christening is the ceremony, I've never been to one that had an after party that was more than tea and sandwiches.

TitusAndromedon Sun 10-Jul-16 19:04:14

I've never heard of it, but I kind of like the idea! I went to a christening this afternoon and my husband and I spent the entire time trying to keep our twins quiet, yet occupied. Would have loved to just go to the bit afterwards.

Bearbehind Sun 10-Jul-16 19:05:30


I bet they'll be a gift list and everything.

The world has gone mad with grabbiness and entitledness.

If you didn't laugh you'd cry.

Alconleigh Sun 10-Jul-16 19:06:58

Not a thing. I would pull this face quite a lot hmmhmmhmm and decline.

TheRadiantAerynSun Sun 10-Jul-16 19:10:20

So it's not just me then! Good.

It''s face Facebook invite too grin

Well, my cousin is lovely, so I shall keep my confuzzelment to myself and enjoy the party.

Bottomchops Sun 10-Jul-16 19:12:15

That's the best bit!

Paulat2112 Sun 10-Jul-16 19:14:56

When my brother made his communion a few years ago the invite was to the chapel and then on for a meal/party. My mum did tell everyone they were more than welcome to join after and skip the chapel part as seating was very limited and only one pew per child. We didn't go to the chapel (three young kids who wouldn't enjoy standing for over an hour). Is it like that?

Ditsy4 Sun 10-Jul-16 19:15:01

Crazy.the whole point is to welcome the baby into the church community.

AdultingIsNotWhatIExpected Sun 10-Jul-16 19:18:12

Sounds like they're not Christians at all but want a mini wedding style party

They could just do a naming party, why do people who do Christenings for non Christian reasons not think of that?

weeblueberry Sun 10-Jul-16 19:20:44

Won't the baby be asleep come evening? wink

BluePancakes Sun 10-Jul-16 19:21:11

Every Christening/Baptism I've been to, has either been during a church service, or just afterwards. Either way, they can't stop you from going.

And an evening thing is weird too, as you'd expect the baby to be at least sleepy, if not asleep in bed or the pram.

shitwithsugaron Sun 10-Jul-16 19:23:23

We've had this before it was very odd turning up to a do having not been invited to the actual christening...we only gave a card as I didn't feel it warranted a gift confused

GarlicStake Sun 10-Jul-16 19:25:00

christening being used as an excuse for a party

I would totally do that! Well, if I'd had a child christened I would wink

Wetting the baby's head in both senses - good move! Have a nice time, Radiant.

TheRadiantAerynSun Sun 10-Jul-16 19:27:30

The party time are 5-9pm. I don't know when the Christening is, but I suppose (now I think of it) it would be during the service. Maybe they wanted both ceremony and party and decided to do them on the same day.

It's a logistical nightmare!

Obeliskherder Sun 10-Jul-16 19:32:05

Never heard of it. Either it's OTT or it's nice of them to ask you to a sensibly-timed party. The last few christenings we've been invited to were 9.00am ish on a Sunday morning. Far too early for us!

austenozzy Sun 10-Jul-16 19:33:34

Ditto, garlic, if our dd had been christened we'd have used it as an excuse for a party! But neither of us is at all religious and the hatch/match/despatch life events that many (most?) 'Christians' restrict themselves to seems hypocritical to me. Our wedding was reg office and (naice) pub piss up with casino tables and dancing, which was much more fun for us than a church thing.

WingsToFly Sun 10-Jul-16 19:39:26

Never heard of this - the skipping of the Christening or the having an evening do.

Prom style event for debuting babies the new thing??

taytotayto111 Sun 10-Jul-16 19:42:25

We got invited to the evening do of a communion. I'm so thick I assumed it included going to the church as again I'd never heard of not going to the church so we turned up. Lol awkward !!!

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