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To think that if you really are an introvert...

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ShebaShimmyShake Sun 10-Jul-16 10:23:43 wouldn't make 25 posts every day to all 400 of your Facebook friends about what an introvert you are?

(Sorry, should have warned people it was FB related. And yes, the introvert is now on ignore.)

Mirandawest Sun 10-Jul-16 10:24:55

I find it easier to interact with people online rather than in person as I can retreat when I need to.

That person does sound like a rather attention seeking introvert though.

pinkyredrose Sun 10-Jul-16 10:27:13

YABU. online is not the same as face to face.

wevecomeonholidaybymistake Sun 10-Jul-16 10:28:43

Oh God, do you have the same friend as me??

Constant posts about her social anxiety, how she hates drawing attention to herself but then has hourly updates on her health and all her imaginary conditions.

OhtoblazeswithElvira Sun 10-Jul-16 10:29:47


I am an introvert and find Facebook inexplicable, painful and cringeworthy.

I would close my account but it's a necessary evil to organise some events, for school etc.

TheUnsullied Sun 10-Jul-16 10:29:50

25 posts a day about introversion seems tedious but as others have said, online interaction is far easier for introverts as it allows us to pick and choose which aspects we want to participate in.

reallyanotherone Sun 10-Jul-16 10:31:50


It's a pita and attention seeking, but doesn't mean she's not an introvert.

Facebook isn't really interacting. I find facebook and other social media much less stressfull than actually talking to people irl.

midcenturymodern Sun 10-Jul-16 10:34:53

I can't cope with FB. I post once a year to say thank you for the birthday wishes. Twitter, on the other hand I'm all over confused.

lljkk Sun 10-Jul-16 12:05:54

ha! I won't let FB publicise when my birthday is. I just end up cringing at all the birthday-congrats attention, shudder.
I have read some weird ideas on MN about what an introvert is... like if you ever talk to anyone ever voluntarily, or if you can tolerate loud noise for more than 5 seconds, or if you take any pride in an achievement that gets any public recognition, you get excluded from the I-club.

WorraLiberty Sun 10-Jul-16 12:09:58

It's perfectly possible to be an introvert in RL and an attention seeker online.

Jaimx86 Sun 10-Jul-16 12:13:31

How have they got 400 friends?

Trills Sun 10-Jul-16 12:23:59

It's perfectly possible to be an introvert in RL and an attention seeker online.

Worra has it exactly.

It's possible that this person finds it hard to balance the "right amount" of interaction with humans in their real life, so they post a lot online to try to get interaction in the way that they can control.

And that they are also an annoying pain in the ass.

I am quite introverted in real life, but find it much easier to interact with people online - mainly because I can just walk away from the computer if things are getting too much - something you can't do in real life unless you want to be considered rude.

I hope I don't come over as 'introverted in RL but an attention seeker online', though - that is not my intention.

Buttock Sun 10-Jul-16 12:48:12

I'm an introvert, and I used fb and I post occasional things about being an introvert because they interest me. I also post children pics! But I never post about our days out or selfies as I don't feel I'm narcissistic enough for that.

There are different types of introverts...maybe she's an attention seeking one?

Sighing Sun 10-Jul-16 12:49:10

Those I think my rudeness / cba to be polite means I am introverted type posts?(one about I don't answer my texts because I'm a spesh snowflake today directed me to the unfollow button).
There are loads. A handy heads up that they're too rude to invite to meet anyone you actually value.

Lorelei76 Sun 10-Jul-16 12:50:38

I'm not on FB but I can understand this

I have trouble getting people to understand I'm an introvert so I feel like saying it a lot! I feel like I'm constantly disappointing people in not wanting to go out etc.

PovertyPain Sun 10-Jul-16 12:51:43

Funny, you say that. I have someone on my Facebook that comes across as extremely chatty and would often send me private messages. She lives quite far away and we aren't close friends I RL, yet if I am up her neck if the woods, pub/restaurant, and meet her, she appears very shy and is difficult to converse with. I think FB does help people show a different side to themselves.

If you saw mine you would think I had a lovely life and am very happy, as a lot of my clients tell me on Facebook. In RL I struggle with mental health problems and it's only because I look after other people's pets and my girl with SN, that I drag myself out of bed. The 'public face' and the real person can simply be two sides of the same person.

fourquenelles Sun 10-Jul-16 12:58:13

I am an introvert in that I like to recharge my batteries and top up my energy levels alone. I prefer solo holidays, people watching at parties and am quite happy to spend all day without having to talk to anyone in real life. However, I used to be a management trainer dealing with groups of up to 18 at a time and I have delivered presentations at conferences. This means that to some, I must be an extrovert. Not at all. Horses for courses.

BluePancakes Sun 10-Jul-16 13:07:18


There are different kinds of introverts. I'm a "sociable introvert" in that I really enjoy being with good friends, and can appear outgoing - for a bit. Then I need to climb under the covers with a good book for a few hours to recharge. (With strangers, otoh, I'd much rather sit amongst them reading my kindle.)

However, YANBU about how annoying attention-seeking FB posts are, whether they're posted by introverts or extroverts.

ShebaShimmyShake Sun 10-Jul-16 13:32:30

Doesn't everyone sometimes want to socialise and sometimes want to be alone?

IWouldLikeToSeeTheseMangoes Sun 10-Jul-16 13:33:08

YANBU. Holy fuck this kind of attention seeking is irritating. Recently saw a big confessional type video on facebook where someone was talking for literally about 5 minutes about how hard it was to talk about their issues (glad i don't know them personally, friend of a friend). Em really if that was true then why would you be comfortably publicly broadcasting it? Surely you would talk to a close friend about it instead of whoring it out desperately for 'likes'.

PovertyPain Sun 10-Jul-16 14:57:57

Doesn't everyone sometimes want to socialise and sometimes want to be alone?

You really have no idea about anxiety/social issues, do you, OP? Have you not read the answers, or does it suit you better to slate someone you barely/don't know? Wanting to socialise and wanting to sometimes be alone is very different from having genuine social anxiety.

MargaretCavendish Sun 10-Jul-16 15:01:14

It's the tone of superiority that bothers me, along with the implication that extroverts are empty-handed loud mouths. It riles me up, and I wouldn't consider myself an extrovert (I think, like almost everyone else, I'm a bit of both)

TheFallenMadonna Sun 10-Jul-16 15:01:29

The OP hasn't't made any comment on social anxiety. Which is not the same as introversion.

Whinyleonard Sun 10-Jul-16 15:25:29

AIBU unreasonable to think it's pretty nasty to Bitch about your friend online and not say it to their face if you are that bothered?

OP is doing exactly what she is moaning about. Saying something online she hasbt got the nerve to say in real life. Some friend.

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