First of all, this isn't a massive deal - I love my OH, he's lovely, so good to me in every way so I feel bad even having a slight issue. it's just a petty row, but I either need someone to say they can see my point or give me a virtual slap and tell me to get a grip on myself (I am in a very rubbish personal situation at present and am suffering with depression/anxiety and don't often feel myself)
I've not met my OH's friends, any of them...it's important to me, he lives a 2/3 hour drive away from his hometown where all his friends are but often goes to see them for big nights out (male and female all together, sometimes just the boys) he's been to a couple of weddings the last few weekends which I haven't been invited to because we weren't together at time of invite (no issue with this what so ever, always happy for him to do as he pleases) however during/after each wedding/night out he says "everyone was asking where you were and when they're going to meet you/wish you were here blah blah" so last weekend I went to his hometown with him so we could spend the weekend together and he could still go to a wedding reception, I would entertain myself and drop him off/pick him up....all good, he called me at 2am to pick him, I comment that it was quite late for a wedding reception....
Him: yeah we went in to town after, everyone was asking where you were
me: sooo, you didn't think to give me a shout? "Babe, stick a dress on and come meet us for a few drinks??" For example?
Him: I'm an idiot, I didn't think, will arrange something soon/invite you next time
I should say I was quite upset, felt a bit pathetic. Pathetic that his mates must wonder why he's keeping me away, pathetic for being bothered about something so trivial and silly
Anyway that was that
Tonight, he texts me at half 6.."babe I'm going to go down to my hometown tonight because I don't want to stay in again" (we weren't seeing each other tonight)
So now I'm annoyed again...I literally don't care about him going on nights out or going places without me, but I'm just irritated that he doesn't THINK, again, that I would like to go and meet his friends...why is he able to drop everything at 6:30pm to go home and have a night out but it's seemingly impossible to make any kind of arrangement that involves me ever?! i know I'm being completely irrational and I don't know how to stop these stupid feelings...I spoke to "healthy minds" at the request of my doctor last week and they were completely unhelpful and I just don't know how to process such nonsense anymore. I miss being normal.
I need a to grow up and get a grip don't I. What's wrong with me?!
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almamatters · 09/07/2016 20:21
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