To be annoyed they had no consequences(8 Posts)
This is something I just can't seem to let go. In my life I've been an easy target for bullying but although I can forgive and understand the children who may have targeted me I've experienced some awful treatment by teachers/doctors/mental health professionals/social workers/police officers that has gone completely unpunished on their part even in the instances where I did make a complaint
I'm in a good place at the moment support-wise but I can't help but be frustrated that they've "got away" with their behaviour. I really respect the people brave enough to take on these amazing professions but feel let down that the bad eggs have been overlooked and me branded a liar.
Here are 3 examples:
Teacher - I moved my chair back and it landed on his foot by accident, he grabbed my head and slammed it into the desk "out of instinct".
Mental Health Worker - There was a suicide attempt on my part (years ago), I was taken to a safe house type building which locked up at 10pm. At 8pm I informed her I was menstruating and as I'd been there for hours interviewing in the same clothes/no pads there was an issue. Could I please have a friend bring some clean clothes and sanitary products. I was told "no, you aren't allowed you should have considered it beforehand, have a shower and put those clothes back on". (I actually ran away from there that night due to her treatment and she reported me to the police as missing even though I was sat at home and no-one checked. She then falsified a report to social services about me, the formal complaint ended in "no evidence and she was a senior member of staff who people respected").
Police Officer - Someone who was babysitting my baby DC overnight had a breakdown when her DD threatened suicide, she rang me to say she'd be going to get her DD (from hours away) and leaving my DC in the house alone in the cot. I could hear my DC screaming in the background, the woman was acting unstable telling my DC to "shut up" and I became very frightened for DC. I rang an ambulance for her DC and they were on their way, I told the ambulance that she planned on leaving the baby and was hysterical so they sent a police officer to her house. This was all at 3am ish. I managed to wake someone up for a lift through and we got pulled over a road away from her house. I didn't know if my DC was ok, I was desperate to get to them and upset about the whole situation (also close to her DD). The officer that pulled us over (I was a passenger by the way!) was concerned about why we were out so late, I tried to explain and was told "aha! So you're the liar that tried to get your mate a lift home. Ambulances aren't taxis. Also i've just been up to the house and the lady is perfectly fine, doesn't know why you were worried and she never said she would leave your child for a second. Step out of the car while I breathalyse you, you sound like a drunk fool". At this point I try to explain I'm HF autistic and certainly not drunk but frightened for everyone's safety. He said "you're a silly little girl (I was 23) and clearly drunk“. The rest is a blur but everyone came out of it safe. The lady never babysat again obviously.
Sorry this is long-winded, well done if you got this far. But AIBU to think that these people must just act like this all the time and get away with it because they're respected by colleagues and have a job in which people are usually fantastic. These are 3 of many stories and even when complaints are made you just get shot down
Why would your friend who was babysitting tell such an outrageous lie? This just doesn't make sense.
I think in all professions that there will be people with either zero integrity or who are bullies or both. If those people then come across someone they think is vulnerable, their true nature will come out. And yes it's notoriously hard to raise a complaint xx
Most people experience ill treatment of some kind in their life- you won't be the first or the last.
Ruminating will not help you - moving on will.
I think, and I want you to know I have every sympathy, but the issues you describe (apart from the teacher) are indicative of a rather chaotic life and I think it may be more helpful for you to focus on this.
Some people are mean and this isn't a reflection on you xx
Shizzle He did it to try and prove a point that I was drunk, I was T-Total so he wasn't very happy about being proved wrong.
BMW6 She thought she was in trouble with the police and tried to save her own skin, nasty piece of work and showed her true colours I am NC since then.
I agree I need to move on I'm just totally infuriated that nothing comes from complaints There's so many people that will still be bullying and abusing power today and it's like no-one can stand up to them. I'm more confident now so they wouldn't get away with it and my life is fortunately no longer traumatic but it really gets me down that I couldn't save anyone else from the same experiences even though I informed supervisors, etc.
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