about smashed iPad screen?

[peppatax]

DP has smashed his iPad screen again - third time in six months. After the first two smashings it was repaired at a cost of £150 (DSD cracked it the first time, he finished it off). Repaired iPad has now been dropped again. We have shared finances - I can see a 'when can we get this fixed?' coming. AIBU to say each of the following scenarios:

1. no - iPad doesn't get fixed as pretty sure it will only get broken again
   
2. iPad gets fixed but I get equivalent amount from money to spend on something for me, given its second time in 3 months
   
3. iPad gets fixed but DP pays it back by making me breakfast in bed/dinner/washing up for a month as we could otherwise spend the money on a nice treat/weekend away for us both
   AIBU in each of the scenarios and WWYD?

[VimFuego101]

I would say 1, at least for a month or so. He sounds careless, and the only thing that will make him be more careful is having to use it with a cracked screen for a while. And buy an Otterbox case once you get the screen fixed - expensive but worth it.

[stripeyreds0cks]

If you can afford option 2 I'd go with that.

[ChocChocPorridge]

Get one of the huge, ugly, robust cases from amazon - they're about £20.

We have them on all our ipads and iphones, and they're all pristine inside - despite many, many drops/spills.

It's the ones with the tough exterior and a screen in front of the screen. Sure, it makes them a bit ugly, and a fair bit heavier, but I know how often they get dropped and it's a lot cheaper than a new screen.

[Pinkheart5915]

I'm not sure you can tell an adult they can't have it repaired unless of course you are short of money.
You wouldn't be unreasonable to say your buying yourself something too.

How does he break them? Does he have a protective case on the iPad at all? If not he clearly needs one

[CodyKing]

He could repair it himself - they only plug in and a fraction of the repair bill.

[sandrabedminster]

Buy a Samsung. Much more sturdy

[RadicalPessimist]

YABU! It was an accident. Unfortunate but not something he did on purpose. All your options sound a bit petty TBH unless you are massively short of cash. Just get it fixed and then get a robust case and/or a tempered glass screen protector.

[HerRoyalNotness]

Does it not have a case at all? He sounds very careless. Is there something that he spends on himself alone that he can cut back on to pay for it? A hobby or habit?

My DSs both under 10 have had their iPads for 5 and 3 years respectively and have cases on them. The younger an otterbox, neither have managed to smash or break them yet.

[peppatax]

Yeah I know it's petty - hence the AIBU. I just feel it doesn't give me a leg to stand on when I say to the combined DC 'if you break it you lose it' when DP gets his iPad repaired twice in 4 months.

[peppatax]

He does have a case on it - still manages to smash it!

[peppatax]

I suppose I want to make the point that mine too has survived 4/5 years in a similar case with no similar incidents!

[ShelaghTurner]

We have countless iPads in the wider family (including one owned by my 4yo*) and not one has ever been smashed. Must deduce from that that he's bloody careless and, although I guess as an adult it's up to him, I'd be making my displeasure keenly felt. If my 4yo can look after hers then there's no excuse for a grown man. An accident is unfortunate. Three accidents is careless.

*a hand me down before anyone gets their knickers in a knot 😉

[rookiemere]

Shouldn't cost 150 quid. I got DS's i-pad mini repaired for the second time for 50 quid.
So I'd say get him to shop around to get it done cheaply and then option 2 where you get equal money to spend on yourself.

[peppatax]

rookie that's good to know, I got two quotes last time and both £150 but maybe because the headphone jack needed replacing too

[honeylulu]

Do you have separate disposable income /fun money? If so it should come out if his own money this time. Once from joint funds fair enough. Twice is bloody careless.

[Familyof3or4]

I think yab a bit u. Annoying so soon, but an accident. I would ignore this unless you have a very strict separation of finances and in that case it should be paid from his 'fun money' rather than shared account

[rookiemere]

I think it was these folk I used : //www.quickmobilefix.com/pages/repair.
They give you a free post attachment to print out and then you post it off and then send it back once repaired.

They weren't as good as the first time I used them last year - it took a week or so to come back and then we had to get it redone for free as the screen sensitivity wasn't right, but now it's sorted and it's fine.

Looks like 50 for most i-pad types.

[Ragwort]

I am just beyond amazed at the fact that so many people can afford an iPad yet don't treat them with respect. I just don't know how to comment on this sort of thread, what sort of world do we live in when people don't look after their expensive property . We (family of 3) manage to live quite happily without an iPad.

How many iPads do you have in your family?

[rookiemere]

Bit pearl-clutchy no?

Many families have i-pads and as they have delicate screens, sometimes they get broken. We were always aware this could happen when we gave DS one for Christmas. First break was a genuine accident, we were in Canada, we did a lot of travelling around, he dropped it on the way to the car whilst carrying other stuff. Second time he was sleep deprived after cub camp and admits to dropping it almost purposefully. So he paid for that repair from his own savings and as a result of having the repairs taking so long, was without his i-pad for 3 weeks.

If there is a next time, he knows that he will have no i-pad for 2 months.

[peppatax]

Well that's part of the argument I suppose ragwort, in that we're a blended family and DP and DSD came with an iPad and then DD and I 'shared' one, so I see it as they've broken 'theirs' three times in six months and will expect to share ours. The sharing ours I see as totally fine, it's the using family money to repair theirs as the issue. Pretty sure if I spent £100+ on shoes a few months apart then DP would be equally

[bloodyteenagers]

He needs to change the case. He needs an otter box, life proof jacket, something from griffin.
Not the prettiest of cases but they withstand drops even when standing. We have over 40 (work) and all in the cases mentioned. They get thrown and dropped and withstand everything. Even the original (6 year ish) are still going without cracks and scratches.

I would make that a stipulation. It gets repaired however he has to get a proper case not a fashion flimsy thing.

[bumsexatthebingo]

Yabu. YAnbu to be annoyed that your dp is a clumsy oaf but as a family I wouldn't be totting up who has what - you get what you need. Does he add up every time you get make-up, perfume etc and make sure he has the same? Or give you a list of chores if he thinks you've spent more than him?

[kali110]

Ive dropped my ipad/iphone so many times and never once smashed them. Ipads only in a keyboard case. I second the tempered or gorilla glass ( maybe the same thing)

[OlennasWimple]

I don't understand why you feel the need to "even things up" by spending money on yourself if he gets the screen fixed?