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DP and I are married and we are both males and have 3 DCs.
I am a stay at home dad. DP works full time Monday to Friday. DPs company works with many other countries and DP has been putting in extra hours for the past six months as the company have been asking them to work harder due to the uncertainty around the EU referendum. This means he has been staying late and working many weekends. He doesn't have to do all the extra time but he feels as though he has to take as much as possible and try to help.
The leave vote has created a lot of stress within the company and DP has been coming home grumpy and tired for the past few days. I have been letting him off a bit as I know he is struggling at the moment.
I was supposed to take eldest DC out last weekend for one on one time and DP would be doing a special activity with the others but DP was working so I rearranged for tonight. We haven't had proper one on one time with the DCs for ages because DP has been working so much.
DP called during lunch saying that he was going to be working overtime tonight. I pointed out that we had plans. He said it was too late now as he already said he was doing it. I said fine but when he gets home we need to talk about him working so much. He snapped at me saying I didn't understand and I was being unreasonable and that I should stick to my woman's job and leave working to the real men. I hung up on him.
He has text me since to apologise and tried to call me a few times but I haven't replied yet because I'm still annoyed with him. But I'm also wondering if I should be more understanding about his job.
So was I being unreasonable expecting him to put us first or should I be more understanding?
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Worriednc2016 · 01/07/2016 16:12
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