I'd like to know if anyone has any experience in supervised contact visits please?
Not so Brief background (trying not to dripfeed) 3yr old nephew was taken into care in Feb following school noticing multiple bruises over time. Dad is main carer and as such thought to be the person causing the bruises. Nephew returned to care of mum and dad allowed supervised access only.
Police were involved but no charges due to insufficient evidence. However Dad cautioned for one bruise on child's arm where dad had admitted to nipping him (child was nipping and someone suggested "nip him back he'll not do it again" so I think maybe more a case of stupid naivety than abuse but I don't know).
Contact was hit and miss as neither parent could agree to days and times and SS seemed either unwilling or unable to become more involved in working it out.
As it stands I'm now supervising contact (I have to drive 30 minutes to collect child plus another 10-15 to get to dad, then afterwards drop him at nursery school and drive home).
Dad's own parents are willing to provide the supervision and are allowed to by social services but mum "doesn't feel comfortable" with them collecting him but is OK with them looking after him.
What I want to know is what happens if I refuse to supervise contact any longer? Will social services have to put other provision in place?
The supervision is draining emotionally plus it's costing me a fortune in fuel that no-one has offered to help with. I feel really selfish saying I don't want to do it any longer but feel like I need to protect my mental health.
Our parenting styles and interests are very different which doesn't help matters and I have to bring my 2 year old along too and I'm not sure it's great for them.
This probably doesn't belong in AIBU but not sure where else to put it so as people will see and have ideas/suggestions.
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WobbleYourHead · 28/06/2016 21:43
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