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AIBU taking pics of others children

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Laurensr · 28/06/2016 20:02

Firstly I have an anxiety disorder so tend to make big issues of something small.

Today I took my 16 month old to the zoo. She was walking with me holding her hand, she stopped to wave to a another little girl who also stopped and waved back, the other girls mum then took a picture of them. Is this okay with you guys? I didn't say anything but it niggled me.

For personal reasons we don't have pictures of our DC on social media or anything like that.

Would like others views on this?

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BertrandRussell · 28/06/2016 20:04

Difficult. It wouldn't bother me at all- it was just a cute picture. But I know some people get very ariated about things like this.

Not much help, am I? Sorry!

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Scholes34 · 28/06/2016 20:04

What's the problem for you?

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Laurensr · 28/06/2016 20:07

Schples34

I don't really no, I'm not purposely trying to be a kill joy. I just think of the worse situation

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Laurensr · 28/06/2016 20:07

Thank you! Maybe I need to chill! X

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2ManySweets · 28/06/2016 20:10

I am in no way precious about this type of thing (NOT calling you precious op) but there's a woman at my baby swimming who takes umpteen pics of her DD and DH in the water for the full 30mins.

It just fucks me off because there's an assumption there that it's ok for her so it's ok for everyone.

Sadly we live in an age where it's not really ok. Sad, sad, sad but true.

The lady should really have asked (in your case and mine).

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mrgrouper · 28/06/2016 20:11

It would not bother me.

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NoahVale · 28/06/2016 20:12

i dont see why she should have an unauthorised photo of your child. i dont blame you for feeling uneasy. for inexplicable reasons.

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NoahVale · 28/06/2016 20:13

how did she take a picture of them? wasnt she standing with her daughter? Confused

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Laurensr · 28/06/2016 20:15

No the little girl was walking on her own with her mum infront of her, I guess she turned around to see where she was, saw them waving at each other and took pic

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JuxtapositionRecords · 28/06/2016 20:16

It's weird of the mum to do that I agree, but there would be nothing malicious behind it.

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NoahVale · 28/06/2016 20:19

did you then try and get in conversation?

sounds like it was a cute photo opportunity

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Scholes34 · 28/06/2016 20:22

What are your worries? What do you think might happen to your daughter's image?

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NarkyKnockers · 28/06/2016 20:44

I wouldn't be worried about it but I wouldn't photograph a strangers child without making sure it was ok with them first. Obviously not if they were in the distant background but if they are the focus of the picture I think its a weird thing to do.

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timeandtide · 28/06/2016 21:20

hungermama.com/going-with-my-gut-why-i-post-pictures-of-my-kids-online/

This is an interesting read... Slightly
Off topic as it's more about posting pics online but it's almost in the same vein as this thread.

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HostaFireandIce · 28/06/2016 21:30

I once had some tourists following my then 2 year old son around a flower garden taking photos of him from a couple of feet away. Very odd! I didn't say anything, but I did usher him away fairly quickly...

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splendide · 28/06/2016 21:32

Wouldn't bother me at all. I've had strangers take pictures of just DS before which I thought was odd - why would you want a picture of a random toddler - but again I didn't mind.

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TestingTestingWonTooFree · 28/06/2016 21:38

I don't put my dc on Facebook and try to prevent people I know from doing so. I certainly will not be tagged in any photos with them so they can't be identified. I wouldn't worry at all about the circumstances you describe.

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user1467101855 · 28/06/2016 21:43

This comes up all the time, and what people have to understand is that no matter what your feelings on the matter, there is nothing you can do to stop anyone talking pics of anyone they like.
If people want to take pictures of you or your children, there is not one thing you can do about it. They can also do what they want (non-commercially) with those pictures.

You can ask them not to if you like, but there is ZERO you can do about it.

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