I moved out of the family home in March after starting divorce proceedings in January.
STBX offered me £10,000 which equates to 5%. I "humoured" him by verbally going along with this offer as I needed his financial help to move out (£1,100). However, I stupidly thought that, once he had been to see a solicitor, they would have put him in the picture about what a fair financial settlement would be. Clearly not. He accused me of wanting to steal his house off him when I picked the 3 DCs up from "his" house at the weekend. Should add I hate it when he brings this shit up in the car with the DCs in.
I told him he had to make a formal offer, in writing, through his solicitor to my solicitor, but he wants us to have a "chat" at the family home tomorrow evening.
I really do not want to do this. I offered to go to marriage guidance whilst we were still living together AND mediation, both of which he refused. I know it will upset me being back in the family home, comparing it to where me and the DCs are now living (small and miles from their friends) which will put me at a disadvantage as he always gets his way when I blubber.
Also I don't see the point in trying to come to a "fair" financial settlement with someone who refuses to see that 5% to me and 95% to them is not realistic.
AIBU to refuse this meeting and just tell him that all financial talks must go through our solicitors with him complaining of the cost to him for every letter, meeting, etc?
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inabizzlefam · 27/06/2016 22:59
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