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AIBU to admit being a twonk and apologising?

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takingfootoutmouth Mon 27-Jun-16 16:56:50

Cutting a long story short I repeated a sentence someone said to person she said it about. Other person went off the deep end. (it was a pretty trivial sentence about one not agreeing with what other person did).
Person who said sentence I repeated called me up on it. I admitted saying it, apologised. Expected some sulking but holy batman it's all gone bananas.
There was FB drama and original sentence sayer having a massive abuse hurl at other persons OH...
AIBU in that yes I repeated something I shouldn't have but can't be responsible for the other two's massive over reaction?
Short of hopping in time machine I can't change history....

peppercold Mon 27-Jun-16 16:59:40

Well if you hadn't repeated it....

Costacoffeeplease Mon 27-Jun-16 17:02:22

But you are responsible for the fall-out

monkeywithacowface Mon 27-Jun-16 17:03:15

Well you were shit stirring and now there's a shit storm. Probably not much you can do but strongly suggest you don't try to "help" smooth things over

ChicRock Mon 27-Jun-16 17:03:17

What you're seeing is the fallout of you being a gossip.

takingfootoutmouth Mon 27-Jun-16 17:04:30

Yes yes... I know... Tbh I can't even remember why it came up. Should have kept big gob shut.

takingfootoutmouth Mon 27-Jun-16 17:08:03

Wasn't intentional shit stirring, but you're right there is a shit storm (which was my fault). Yup I shall not be trying to smooth things out as I will probably make it worse!

ReallyShouldKnowBetterAtMyAge Mon 27-Jun-16 17:11:03

Oh dear I suppose all you can do is apologise an learn not to be a gossip

takingfootoutmouth Mon 27-Jun-16 17:15:41

Yup. Lesson learned (and sadly 'friendship' lost). Was one of those 'brain telling mouth to button it but mouth just kept going' moments. blush

StarryIllusion Mon 27-Jun-16 17:41:43

Isn't it awful when your mouth runs away with you like that? We've all done it but tbh I would just stop digginggrin Let it blow over.

takingfootoutmouth Mon 27-Jun-16 18:02:43

starryillusion Yup... Well and truly should have kept gob shut. But it's said now and I will be bad guy (even if their reactions are shocking, wasn't a big sentence. More a oo she didn't like that kind of thing). No more digging shall be done as I think my apology made it worse, and they used my mouth opening as an excuse to go battle blush

KimmySchmidtsSmile Mon 27-Jun-16 18:15:47

Ah OP, you're not Cher and you don't have a tardis so all you can do is...
...tell us what you said in the first place! wink
Only then can we judge accordingly whether it was gossip/bitchin worth tattle-taleing about.

Pettywoman Mon 27-Jun-16 18:22:01

Lol Kimmy.

AgentPineapple Mon 27-Jun-16 18:24:37

It's can be easily done OP, I have done it and unlike you didn't apologise or admit I had done anything wrong (don't really know why!) it's one of those learn from it moments xx

takingfootoutmouth Mon 27-Jun-16 18:31:57

AgentPineapple... I actually don't think apologising helped confused as I admitted it too. I usually repeat nothing but for some reason this just slipped out... sews up mouth to avoid any repeats

takingfootoutmouth Mon 27-Jun-16 18:35:01

Kimmy grin I actually had to stop myself saying the exact same thing to her when apologizing (or singing If I could turn back time)...
Ooo I could tell you...but then I'd have to... Hide away forever in a cabin in the woods whittling spoons...

timeandtide Wed 29-Jun-16 10:36:32

You made a mistake. If you're not known for shit snorting then they need to get over it and grow the fuck up.

Please tell us what you said grin

timeandtide Wed 29-Jun-16 10:36:50

Stirring not snorting!!

IceRoadDucker Wed 29-Jun-16 10:42:41

YABU for trying to shift the blame onto the people you gossiped you. It reminds me of, "I'm great at keeping secrets! It's the people I tell who can't keep their mouths shut."

Of course you can't go back and change what you did but your attitude suggests you haven't really learnt from it.

IceRoadDucker Wed 29-Jun-16 10:42:51

you gossiped to*

takingfootoutmouth Wed 29-Jun-16 11:42:58

Oh no... I do know what I did was my fault. Not blame shifting at all. I made a mistake. He went off the deep end (for what was said). She then went bat sh*t crazy back at him. I am not a ' sh*t stirrer *. She shouldn't have said it, I shouldn't have reapeated and he shouldn't have gone off the deep end. We all are in the wrong.

takingfootoutmouth Wed 29-Jun-16 11:59:09

Sh*t snorting... Hmm yum!?
But yeah there does seem to be a lack of adulting. I admitted I was inwrong to repeat it (it was about something she didn't agree with he did.) not first time she has had very strong opinions on others (including me) and i suspect won't be the last. I've learnt my lesson. Problem is now a whole list of people are telling him what else she has said about him...

AgentPineapple Thu 30-Jun-16 19:44:11

taking no it probably didn't help but what else can you do? It's not like you can go back in time and undo it. So in that way, an apology is all there is

pippinandtog Thu 30-Jun-16 19:50:40

And in future, bear in mind Thumper's old adage.

takingfootoutmouth Thu 30-Jun-16 22:34:35

Yup, sorry was all I could do. Especially as I didn't actually name her, he guessed it was her as she is known for opinions. Ach well, I'm sure she'll get over it eventually (and maybe learn not to talk about people behind their backs, because there's always a gype that will drop you in it, even if accidentally) hmm

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