Hi - NC - ok so yesterday DH and I had an argument over how we are parenting DD. He accuses me of being a bad mother because I discipline her - but I feel I often have to compensate for his lack of parenting. I am very open and verbal - he is very passive aggressive. I went to bed very upset - and he slept in another room. I texted him to say I felt upset, that I was sorry that he felt that way about me but that I still loved him. No response.
Today is my birthday. This morning he comes in and puts a card by my bed and sneaks out. The card is addressed using my "proper" name. He only ever calls me by my nick name. He knows that I use my proper name solely for people who don't know me /aren't close friends. Inside he has not even addressed me by any name at all. Just "Have a happy birthday. Love X" .
He has now made an excuse to go out on some errand about 40 miles away which will no doubt take hours. I'm sure he didn't have this planned before as he never mentioned it to me. When I asked him if he had any plans for the rest of the day day he said no. Usually on my birthday he would take me out for lunch or something as he has done for the last 10 years. I had set the day aside.
I feel like I am being punished by him all the time . It feels like the card and the going out on an unnecessary errand is just more passive aggressive behaviour.
AIBU to feel this way or is there something wrong with me? Is this something your DH's would do? Are there any men out there who can explain it to me or who feel I am wrong here?
I am very confused and upset.
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To be upset at way DH is treating me on my birthday
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BigMuffinTop · 27/06/2016 10:36
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