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Those who followed my dds awful school year is this letter to school ok?

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MarthaElf Sun 26-Jun-16 22:43:33

NC so other posts not linked but anyone who has listened to me moan for months this year will know.
Following an awful year, threatened with a knife in school (didn't bother ringing me) stones thrown at her, hit, called a slag, threatened to 'twat her' 'punch her' and more including continually being let down in relation to her learning issue.

She has now got a new place for September elsewhere.
I am withdrawing her from the school with immediate effect (she tried to stay initially as didn't want to miss out on fun trips because of the bullies sad )

Anyway I have done the letter to withdraw but don't want to just add the standard dereg letter as I want it out there why.

Is this okay?

It is after very careful consideration and discussion that following dd being significantly unhappy at x school for a substantial period of time that we have taken the difficult decision to move dd to a smaller setting and one which more matches her future career pathway. We currently already have an offer for dd for September out of Borough in regards to this following interviews and dd already knows pupils within the school.

As some members of staff are aware dd has suffered some issues this year including the weapon incident, stones thrown at her on the school run and name calling in addition to some other incidents which have rocked her confidence. Sadly dd is so unhappy and it has come to light over the weekend that following a previously reported incident she has suffered further bullying in school in the past week including daily threats to 'twat her' 'punch her' and being called offensive names from an older pupil which she has been scared to report as the pupil lives fairly locally to us.

As a result of her continued unhappiness and resulting anxiety we have decided to remove dd from x school for the final three weeks of term and take full responsibility for dds education at home as per section 7 of the 1996 Education Act and have informed the LA by email of this also.

In accordance with this we therefore ask that dds name be removed from the school register immediately from today 26/6/16 as per Regulation 8(1) of the Education (Pupil Registration) Regulations 2006.

As we have informed the LA we will be using this time to rebuild dds confidence and cover topics provided by her new school for September where dd has already chosen options while providing an efficient education suitable to her age, ability, aptitude and needs.

Gramgram Sun 26-Jun-16 22:56:11

Just want to wish your DD all the best in her new school. Take care of yourself too.

CodyKing Sun 26-Jun-16 23:00:01

Please copy in the chair of governors. And the LA and Of stead. And the local paper.

Poor DD - she is not a victim. She is a survivor and I wish her all the best for her new school where she will feel wanted.

Steppenwolfe Sun 26-Jun-16 23:00:53

I don't know your story but that sounds a very fair and reasonable letter
to send the circumstances. Possibly outline how you feel they could have supported your daughter /how they have failed you . I'm sure you are weary of outlining this if you've had such a horrible year . flowers wishing you and your lovely girl a bright new start on her school .

antiqueroadhoe Sun 26-Jun-16 23:02:52

Yes this letter is fine. Very sad it's got to this stage. Wishing her all the best for a fresh start in September.

starry0ne Sun 26-Jun-16 23:05:30

Sad you should have to send it but yes..The as it should be.. I wish her look in her new school.

EmeraldGreenSea Sun 26-Jun-16 23:06:17

I'm sorry, I don't know of the history here but speaking as someone who suffered abuse at school which went beyond bullying in my opinion I urge you to send this. Sending much love and strength to you and your girl and hope there are much happier times ahead. Well done for getting through this and don't look back flowersflowers for you both.

wobblywonderwoman Sun 26-Jun-16 23:08:18

Very well written letter (teacher here and appalled)

Wishing your daughter every success in her new sxhool. flowers

wobblywonderwoman Sun 26-Jun-16 23:08:36


Rumpelstiltskin143 Sun 26-Jun-16 23:19:58

Excellent letter, as a teacher I'm also appalled.

As above CodyKing said above do this.

Please copy in the chair of governors. And the LA and Of stead. And the local paper

MarthaElf Sun 26-Jun-16 23:20:38

Thanks everyone.
Very sad indeed. Gutted what they have done to my girl. In addition to the bullying they have repeatedly failed to understand her learning need and failed to make reasonable adjustments.
LA have been informed. I had already spoken to them some weeks ago for advice on schools.
Trying not to be too emotive but get my point across.

notquitegrownup2 Sun 26-Jun-16 23:25:38

Very clear letter. I would just take out the reference to her future career, unless that is very important to you. She deserves to be well looked after and cared for, whatever her career might be.

Wishing her all the very best in her new school.

StickTheDMWhereTheSunDontShine Sun 26-Jun-16 23:25:47

Great news that you've got a new school for her. Probably best talk to the EWO, pre-emptively, though, to explain why you're taking her out for the last few weeks (ie protecting her mental health), just in case you get any more shenanigans from her current school.

Effic Sun 26-Jun-16 23:33:46

Hi OP. Have you explicitly told the LA what you are doing and got it in writing from the LA that your September place is guaranteed even if you elect to home educate now? Please, please be very careful and make sure. The LA here automatically withdraws ANY & ALL school place if a parent elects to home educate, even if it is specified for a short period. Home education is supposed to be a philosophical decision not a way of avoiding school for a few weeks or people would claim home ed for their fortnight in Florida during term time. It may be different in your authority but Please check! I've had more than one parent get trapped by this and end up with no school place to go to.

JudyCoolibar Sun 26-Jun-16 23:37:20

Copy the letter to the Chair of Governors and Ofsted.

CodyKing Sun 26-Jun-16 23:37:31

If the above is correct - then get a doctor's note for the 3 weeks.

Beeziekn33ze Sun 26-Jun-16 23:39:22

Terrible that you are driven to take this step.
Wishing DD a good start in her new school in September 💐

situatedknowledge Sun 26-Jun-16 23:40:15

I hope your daughter loves her new school and thrives. flowers

MarthaElf Sun 26-Jun-16 23:42:03

Poo I hope not Effic.
School is in a different borough if that makes a difference.

Ditsy4 Sun 26-Jun-16 23:46:10

So sorry to hear this. Yes the letter is fine I might reword the it about the weapon though.
I don't know if she has had any counselling but if not it might be worth your while to ask the GP to refer her.
Stick EWO's are long gone here.q

MarthaElf Sun 26-Jun-16 23:50:31

Just checked the previous email with LA and it just said provide dob and address then we can make a note on the file that its temp.

Effic Sun 26-Jun-16 23:55:18

Great! Just wanted you to be sure as in my LA the rules are different and do not allow this. Its caused awful problems for a couple of parents I know that did it. Good luck with the move and I hope your DD is much happier in her new school.

MarthaElf Mon 27-Jun-16 00:01:11

It isn't an LA beginning with W is it?
I don't know how it would even work as you can stop home ed and apply for a place at any given time so surely it just makes more work.

New school deal mostly with their own admissions and in a seperate borough so hope I am protected!

MamaBear98 Mon 27-Jun-16 00:02:50

I hope your daughter gets on better in her new school and that everyone can pull through this flowers I've moved schools before so know what it's like to have to start again somewhere new sad

Italiangreyhound Mon 27-Jun-16 00:07:56

MarthaElf I am so sorry to hear that the school have failed your precisous daughter so badly.

I long for the day when all who have suffered in this way sue their former schools. It is what they deserve!

Your letter is brilliant. In your shoes I personally would spell out "my daughter was threatened with a knife in school (and the school did not ring me to tell me) rather than 'including the weapon incident'.

This is because people who read this letter may not know what the weapon incident was. And I think the reality of what happened is so horrible and the 'including the weapon incident' kind of softens it.

I think she (and you) have done amazing well to cope with all this, please, please get her some counselling linked to something building up confidence/assertiveness training if she needs it (she may not, I am not assuming she does, i am just mentioning it because it might help her).

I would explore self defense, if she wanted it. I do Taekwan-do and it is quite empowering.

However, I'd also urge, and I am sure you know this, to allow her to make as many decisions as you reasonably can, to help her build her confidence.

Good luck. thanks

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