I've lost it last night with H. Am I in the wrong?

(183 Posts)
Tatiana11235 Sat 25-Jun-16 10:02:14

Hi, posting here because I'd like your harshest verdicts.
I got woken up at 2am this morning by my drunk H wailing songs at the top of his voice. He was singing about how proud he was that we're out of EU.
After listening to him for 15mins I went and asked if he could stop as I really would like to get back to sleep. He said it's his 4th July and he's being happy. As it is usually pointless arguing with him I went back to bed.
He was still at it at 3am, shouting and singing. I am ashamed to admit I lost it then blush I told him he's a complete dick for making so much noise and keeping me awake. May I also point out we live in a block of flats so no doubt the neighbouring flats had the pleasure of listening to his performance too.
Well, shit hit the fans then. He proceeded to tell me he's celebrating this historically important event and if I, the economic immigrant, don't like it here I should piss of back to were I came from. We've been together 10 years sad he wouldn't have it that it's not the fact that he's celebrating that's pissing me off but the fact that he's keeping me awake and half the building too.
Was IBU to be pissed off and ask him to shut the fuck up? Or is it reasonable to be make so much noise given the situation?

PoisonWitch Sat 25-Jun-16 10:07:48

He is a twat. YANBU.

acasualobserver Sat 25-Jun-16 10:09:52

He was singing about how proud he was that we're out of EU

Is there a song for this already? How does it go?

blueskywithclouds Sat 25-Jun-16 10:11:34

Er, how could you even begin to think that yabu?! Of course you aren't! And the comment about you fucking off home? Wow.

BeyondTellingEveryoneRealFacts Sat 25-Jun-16 10:12:03

Its often said on mn that being drunk doesnt make you say things you dont mean, just bring those deeply hidden to the surface sad

Tatiana11235 Sat 25-Jun-16 10:12:12

No there isn't a particular song grin he was listening to some songs and shouting his own 'lyrics' over them

Flisspaps Sat 25-Jun-16 10:13:10

"He proceeded to tell me he's celebrating this historically important event and if I, the economic immigrant, don't like it here I should piss of back to were I came from."

I'm afraid that would be enough for me to consider walking out.

Tatiana11235 Sat 25-Jun-16 10:13:49

Bluesky, I was gobsmacked when he came out with that. I don't know where it came from.

MyKingdomForBrie Sat 25-Jun-16 10:14:04

What an utter dickhead. Time to vote leave in your own mini referendum!

Tatiana11235 Sat 25-Jun-16 10:16:13

Flisspaps, I pointed out to him I never complained about living here. He said that by not liking him celebrating I am moaning about the country and am welcome to fuck off.

MyNewBearTotoro Sat 25-Jun-16 10:17:13

He is a twat. Nothing to do with what or why he is celebrating - he would equally be a twat if he was celebrating his football team winning the league or his horse coming in first with drinker singing in the middle of the night.

The comment for you to go back to where you came from is low. Although I would take him up on his suggestion and LTB.

DeathStare Sat 25-Jun-16 10:18:12

So not only does he not give a shit about whether you are ok/get any sleep, but he's explicit about the fact he sees you as a second class citizen. Leave

nicenewdusters Sat 25-Jun-16 10:18:30

The loud, extended late night singing is childish and selfish.

The remark about you being an economic migrant and pissing off home ? Vile. Do you think he's always thought this ? That remark would change my feelings for him personally.

AnyFucker Sat 25-Jun-16 10:18:56

I would take him up on his offer.

This is nothing to do with the EU result. You must be crazy if you tolerate being treated like that and I doubt it is the first time nor will it be the last.

StarryIllusion Sat 25-Jun-16 10:19:47

Oh my god I would murder him. If he woke me up singing at 2am it better be for something better than a bloody referendum. YANBU. At all. If he woke me up and no one was dead/dying, they soon would be.

MyNewBearTotoro Sat 25-Jun-16 10:20:52

Sorry - posted too soon.

I would take him up on his suggestion and LTB. Go away and leave him to it and to think anout what he said, why and how that makes you feel. If his country is more important to him than his relationship then I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with him.

I'd give him time apart for both of you to think and only if he was very genuinely apologetic would I go back.

HandyWoman Sat 25-Jun-16 10:21:13

Your actual H said that? sad

Good lord. YANBU.

That 'piss off back to where you came from' comment I think would have me considering whether I had a future with him. Yes he was drunk but I'm afraid he was revealing the actual contempt he holds you in. It's real, that.

MissElizaBennettsBookmark Sat 25-Jun-16 10:21:40

YANBU.

If my partner spoke to me like that I would be in the solicitor's office on Monday morning, working out my own exit strategy.

Tatiana11235 Sat 25-Jun-16 10:25:11

Totoro, he actually said he would be perfectly entitled to make such a racket if it was because of football so why can't he be happy on the Independence day as he put it confused he's not a football fan by the way so this remark is redundant from where I am standing. He also brought in an argument that people are allowed to make noise on NYE so why can't make noise on such an important day....
I don't know wtf happened and am still trying to pick my jaw off then floor. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't raining on his parade.

Laiste Sat 25-Jun-16 10:27:22

Well, the good thing about all this is that it's shown you how he really feels about you flowers

Waste no more or your life on him.

mogloveseggs Sat 25-Jun-16 10:27:22

Yanbu yanbu yanbu yanbu!!! What a disgusting thing to say to you!

MeMySonAndl Sat 25-Jun-16 10:29:01

"f I, the economic immigrant, don't like it here I should piss of back to were I came from. We've been together 10 years"

I really don't think I would ever be able to go past that comment. Ever.

Does he always treat you like that? Time to show him that one of the strengths of the immigrant is that they have the courage move on to start afresh in a new place when the local circumstances are crap?

UnderTheGreenwoodTree Sat 25-Jun-16 10:29:38

and if I, the economic immigrant, don't like it here I should piss of back to were I came from.

He said that to you? Anyone expressing sentiments like that, about anyone, would be out of my life.

Unfortunately this Leave vote has brought out the 'Racist Dick' streak, that was lying dormant in many people, and allowed them to air it.

Sympathies OP.

Peridotisinvalid Sat 25-Jun-16 10:31:27

Well there's a very obvious straightforward answer to this isn't there?

LTB

Seriously. He's made it very clear what he thinks of you.

Pearlman Sat 25-Jun-16 10:31:30

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