To be upset over parking rage incident??(38 Posts)
Yesterday evening, DS (age 10) was ill in bed with a temp of 101. DH, working late. I needed more Calpol so decided to pop out to get (max 10 min round trip) some more and at the same time pick up a takeaway having had a long day. I left DS at home with older DD and DM who's staying with us. Got to shops, absolutely nowhere to park. Went around the block then found a tiny place. I squeezed into it, close to the car in front and with my bottom sticking out too, yes, I hold my hands up to Very Bad Parking. However, I wasn't blocking the road. I got back in just under 5 mins. Just starting engine and a woman (nicely dressed in her 70s) came over and banged on my window hard and screamed "We've had to wait 5 minutes because of your appalling parking". I hadn't realised that they themselves had parked so close to the car in front of them so they were pretty much boxed in. I was about to say "I'm really sorry about that, let me get on my way and you'll then be able to leave too" and she then screamed "You stupid f******* b*tch". I then shut the window. She carried on screaming and started to kick my car! Her husband then yanked the car door open and started yelling and yelling at me about my parking, "what were you f*** thinking of" and yelling and yelling, all the time his wife is screaming obscenities in the background and still kicking my car. I asked him to let me shut my door and he wouldn't let me and obstructed me. I told him I'd call the Police. He said, he was going to call them to report my parking and I told him to go ahead and do so as I accept I had parked badly. At which point he let go of the car door and I shut and locked the doors. All the time this woman is still screaming and kicking my car. It was bizarre, they were a nicely dressed, elderly couple, just not the types you could imagine being so awful (serves me right for stereotypying people!). I would have thought they might have complained (but I genuinely didn't realise they couldn't get out of thei space), but the reaction was completely OTT. Parking situations happen all the time in busy areas like but I'd never react like that! I reported it to 101 Police. They said that if I wanted to make a complaint I'd have to go and report it in person. They agreed the reaction was completely OTT. So sensible ladies, I'm already feeling better having got this off my chest, do I report them for threatening and unreasonable behaviour or just have a big glass of wine and forget it? DH says report them! He says it's afray at least!
Wow. I'd definitely report it. If it was just verbal then I might have just left it, but she sounded mentally unhinged.
I'd be terrified if someone yanked open my car door and started screaming and swearing at me I say go and report them
and when you get back have a big glass of wine. Or two Their behaviour was totally over the top and unacceptable!!
If its true then yes report them. Obviously.
Report! And then have the wine. What arseholes! If they hadn't parked so close themselves then they would have been able to get out so they were a bit to blame as well. Maybe they realised that and felt stupid and angry with themselves, so took it out on you?
Hope DS is better soon too.
I'd have locked my doors, taken photos and or video footage of them, got the hell out of their and reported them both. Sounds awful OP, no wonder you're shaken up. Did you get their license plate?
I'd have reported their arses. I'd like to see someone kick my car. Yes it's annoying when someone blocks you in but you didn't disappear all night and a passive aggressive "I wasn't in a hurry anyway" or similar would be sufficient.
Things like that are very scary. I'd report if you have their details.
Definitely report the aggressive arsewipes... hopefully an officer can go round and shit them right up. Enjoy your wine and hope the LO is better.
Oh god, poor you. There was one time I was dropping off ds at the childminders and I was in a mad hurry so parked badly with bum of car sticking out a bit but was not blocking road. Was in cm house literally 2 mins and came back out to her ndn ranting and raving at me about my shit parking. she was a respectable looking middle aged woman. I was heavily pregnant and cried. It's not nice and your situation sounds much more scary. Sorry you had to go through that. In their situ I might have been annoyed to be held up if couldn't get my car out, but would have just acted bit huffy and also they shouldn't have parked so close to the car in front then they would have been able to get out. Anyway have some sounds like a stressful time you're having.
Awful OP. A similar thing happened to me once. Not parking but I also made a minor driving error that I was actually unaware of and a man swerved in front of me, leapt out of the car and shrieked and swore and was looming over me as if he wanted to get into the car and attack me (doors were locked). The DCs who were both under 5 at the time were in the back screaming in terror. I was sobbing too. This went on for a good few minutes. Thank god two lovely men came along and calmed him down and led him back to his car and helped me get away.
I posted on MN about it and got told I was an entitled bitch because of my original driving error
I think actually I should have reported it, as you should, because that behaviour is criminal. But I didn't because MN told me I was an entitled bitch.
Even the daftest or parkers doesn't deserve that. We've all had one of those days and perhaps not thought the way we should or been a bit flustered and not thought things through. You have every right to be upset. for you. I'd report them, if anything for their benefit, sounds like you froze and escaped as quickly as possible but imagine they did that to someone who reacted in a similar fashion? Not to stereotype but from your child's age I'm assuming you're younger, what if you'd punched her?! I think of people I know in their 70's and it could have had a bad outcome.
If this actually happened exactly as you said, why would you be being unreasonable to be upset by their actions?
It could be that they both have some form of dementia. It's not uncommon for otherwise very placid, polite people to become a bit aggressive due to dementia. It could be that this incident is one of many that together help build a picture of a couple who need help. Or they may just be nasty violent twats who think they can get away with that sort of behaviour because they look "respectable". Either way, I think you should report.
Something similar happened to me, was waiting to go through the traffic calming single lane section on a 20mph road in the worlds most awful car, the idiot behind me overtook me, nearly caused an accident and sped off. I then turned up at the lights 30 secs later and was behind him. He jumped out of his car, pulled my door open and started screaming at me about how slow I was going and how I should have gone through.
I reported him, police went round to tell him off, told me that he'd been very defensive but that they'd got through to him. I still wish I'd rammed his car. But am glad I reported so that at least he got some consequences. Definitely report!
You should report. Try not to feel bad. Shit parking is not an excuse to abuse somebody.
Report. Then wine. Some people are just tits.
Thanks all, it was a nasty situation! I went to the shop outside which the incident took place and they said they thought they had it on their CCTV so if so, I'll definitely report it. I also took their reg no at the time.
I agree with your comments - bad parking is no excuse for this level of abuse. A few sharp words would have more than sufficed! They were unhinged!
They overreacted massively but you caused them to be blocked in. I would have been furious if I was them. So many people go round in a bubble and don't consider anyone else. You should have parked properly further away.
Maybe they needed breathalyzing, their rage sounds like it could've been fuelled by more than five minutes inconvenience.
Totally out of proportion especially when you were accepting responsibility for parking badly.
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