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I have been separated from my husband for 5 years and we are now finally getting round to sorting out the financials and our divorce.
We were together for 7 years before getting married and married for 2 years before we split up. I'm currently renting with no chance of getting onto the property ladder until I have saved a deposit.
We met in 2002, I moved into his house in 2003 and I went onto the mortgage in 2005. We then married in 2009. We have no children together. I left the marriage with nothing, he is still in the house with our 2 dogs. I contributed to the house financially from when I moved in, 8 years before we split up.
The split has been more than amicable, we are still friendly and have met up for a few times for coffee and a chat to discuss the financial stuff and text and chat on the phone every so often.
We have joint debts amounting to approx 10k. His suggestion was that he will pay off the joint debt and I will come off the mortgage and then we would be completely separate from each other financially. This was agreed about a year after we split. I was in complete agreement about walking away and not asking for anything else. The reason for this was over my guilt over how we separated because I left him for someone else who I now have 1 child with.
Last month we got the ball rolling by going to a solicitor each to draw up a separation agreement.
My solictor told me that I would be legally entitled to a substantial amount of money after the debts are cleared off.
I was aware that I would be legally entitled to money as we were married and I was on the mortgage however I had decided years ago that I wouldn't ask for anything because of the guilt I would feel asking this after I left for him someone else and that it was his house to begin with.
So really what I'm asking is what would you do in this situation? Would you ask for a cash lump sump sum as well as what we'd agreed?
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Zarathustrasilver · 22/06/2016 21:05
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