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ACoolMomNot Mon 20-Jun-16 21:17:13

Got big academic news earlier, masters result. Been stressing about this for months. Took a while to sink in. Family talked about celebration meal, I said would discuss later. Had some supermarket microwave risotto in the fridge which I was offered, not trying to be ungrateful but surely one of the boons about it being "your night" is that you can choose. I rejected offer maybe a bit rudely as emotions are all over the ship. Need time to sink in. Have gone for takeaway instead but dfather who I lived with has stormed off to "cool down"?! Aibu to think they can cut me some slack.

ACoolMomNot Mon 20-Jun-16 21:34:22


pictish Mon 20-Jun-16 21:37:33

Err... what was it that made you salty? Celebration meal was mentioned but you wanted to discuss later? Microwave risotto was feel slighted?
I don't understand what has occurred.

Queenbean Mon 20-Jun-16 21:38:47

You got some disappointing exam results, family offered to take you out for dinner, you said no not yet, then they offered you a ready meal and you were rude?

If I've understood that right, I appreciate how disappointed you'll be but you were rude. Can you suggest going out tomorrow instead, and for now have a quiet night in digesting the info of your results?

snowy508601 Mon 20-Jun-16 21:40:48

You got some disappointing exam results

I read it as good exam results???

Writerwannabe83 Mon 20-Jun-16 21:41:57

I'm guessing that as it was put across as a celebration meal the OP got a very good result but the celebration meal on offer was frozen risotto whereas OP was expecting a fancy meal out somewhere swanky?

TheChippendenSpook Mon 20-Jun-16 21:42:10

I thought she had good news?

TheChippendenSpook Mon 20-Jun-16 21:43:00

writer said what I was thinking!

Queenbean Mon 20-Jun-16 21:45:37

Ah I see, I'm not sure why you'd reject the offer of a nice dinner if it was good news?!

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Mon 20-Jun-16 21:46:19

You told your family, when offered a celebration meal, that you would discuss it later, OP? Whatever may have been on offer at the time would have been moot at the point of your rudeness and dismissiveness. I'm assuming that you were overcome and are not usually that rude to your family.

Rather than them cutting you some slack, you owe them an apology.

PolitelyDisagree Mon 20-Jun-16 21:47:10

It sounds a bit silly. I guess there is lots of background. Are your results better than you expected?

How about apologies all around and plan a proper celebration in a few days. Organise what you want to do yourself .


Gide Mon 20-Jun-16 21:47:49

You got your Masters and they offered you a fecking microwave meal?! I'd be pissed off to the extreme. DF can jack off, does he not realise how hard it is to get a masters?

DeathStare Mon 20-Jun-16 21:48:58

I'm not sure I'm following.... you said you didn't want to discuss a celebration meal right now so they listened to what you said and offered you a run-of-the-mill dinner tonight?

If that's the situation then yes you are being unreasonable. I'm not sure if that is the situation though

FinallyHere Mon 20-Jun-16 21:50:04

After all the stress, I remember the actual results as a time when the blues descended.

Recognise, I think, the OP may be feeling a down, wanting a little time to adjust.

Hope all works out ok for you. Welcome to the rest of your life. Enjoy.

ACoolMomNot Mon 20-Jun-16 21:51:02

Results a lot better than expected. No did not want meal out somewhere fancy. Just wanted luxury of chilled meal with family at home. Father threw strop when I said I did not like random suggested ready meal in fridge, not in a princessy way, just because I do not like risotto. He was opposed to my choice (buy takeaway) but in the end I bought myself takeaway, family were eating something else anyway but have ordered enough for everyone. Just don't see why it's always so anxious and dramatic. Wish could be more low-key.

isharewifinotsextoys Mon 20-Jun-16 21:51:38

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Crunchymum Mon 20-Jun-16 21:51:52

OP can you clarify? I don't understand exactly what has happened?

Crunchymum Mon 20-Jun-16 21:52:51

Have you all been at the Cava?

redexpat Mon 20-Jun-16 21:53:44


ACoolMomNot Mon 20-Jun-16 21:53:56

No not at all crunchy! Well one glass down! Sorry if I'm not making sense, it's all still sinking in.

ACoolMomNot Mon 20-Jun-16 21:57:25

Thanks red xx

Imnotaslimjim Mon 20-Jun-16 21:57:38

I kind of get it. You've had great news, much better than you expected. Family are going "yay lets all go out and celebrate" but you just want some quiet time to assimilate what has happened. so dad offered a microwave meal instead then took offence when you turned that down too?

I would explain, calmly, that you're feeling a little overwhelmed and ask if you can celebrate tomorrow

Crispbutty Mon 20-Jun-16 21:59:25

Plan a proper more organised celebration for the weekend maybe. And congratulations too smile

pictish Mon 20-Jun-16 22:04:30

Righto. Well congratulations on the masters results! Um...maybe tell your family you need time to process. Your dad sounds a bit hufty but maybe you were sharp with him.
Anyway...congratulations again...don't sweat it. x

1horatio Mon 20-Jun-16 22:04:39

Offering you risotto to celebrate when you don't like risotto is thoughtless. Being upset that you reject a ready meal seems silly (unless he spent his last pounds on it or something).

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