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To think this was rude?

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MrsNightOwl Mon 20-Jun-16 19:02:58

My friend has been there for me through thick and thin, and has helped me through many dark times in my life. Recently her car became a write off - she was upset because she needed it to get to and from work 30 miles away and couldn't afford to buy a new one. As it happens, I've been trying to sell my second car for ages (a cheap banger, but runs amazingly well) so to help her out I told her she could have it for nothing - she graciously accepted.

A week later, and I've just got a text from her asking for the tenner back that she lent me in the supermarket when I didn't have enough to pay for my shopping. I'd totally forgotten about it.

AIBU to be annoyed that she would ask, when I've given her a free car?

SoleBizzz Mon 20-Jun-16 19:03:56

Yanbu what a nerve!!

PinkyofPie Mon 20-Jun-16 19:04:42

YANBU you think she'd let it go! Have you replied?

MrsDeVere Mon 20-Jun-16 19:05:20

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

chickenowner Mon 20-Jun-16 19:05:24


You should say you'll take the £10 off what she owes you for the car.

LaurieFairyCake Mon 20-Jun-16 19:05:49

Well I'd cut her some slack as she's clearly very skint

The tenner and the car are separate to her. Just because you give her a car doesn't mean she can afford to have given you the tenner.

Lovely thing you did though flowersflowersflowers

Arfarfanarf Mon 20-Jun-16 19:06:27

That is quite something.

I think i would reply yeah sure I'll give you back that tenner. Sorry for forgetting. Btw hope that that car i gave you is running ok.

HeirOfNothingInParticular Mon 20-Jun-16 19:06:31

In those circumstances I would always try and repay asap, but understand that sometimes people forget and might need a gentle reminder. However, in this case i would say YANBU

MrsNightOwl Mon 20-Jun-16 19:06:43

No, haven't replied yet

Arfarfanarf Mon 20-Jun-16 19:07:48

Cor. You're all so much nicer than me. I must be a bit of a cow grin

isupposeitsverynice Mon 20-Jun-16 19:08:52

i dunno, actually,if she's so skint you gave her a car for nothing, i think it's not unreasonable for her to think you'll pay back money you borrowed.

QuiteLikely5 Mon 20-Jun-16 19:09:57

I can't believe the nerve of some folk however if you value your friendship you will have to repay it


You could say ' sorry I had thought that since I gave you the car we would be writing the £10 off but I will give it to you xxxx

FoxesOnSocks Mon 20-Jun-16 19:12:25

I understand you're irritated but they are separate things. A car, be it very generously gifted, will not pay for groceries or pay bills.

She has seen you through dark times so is evidently a good friend; your show of friendship could be understand her financial hardship has led her to this.

Crispbutty Mon 20-Jun-16 19:16:31

If she's absolutely broke then that tenner might be the difference between eating this week and not.

Vixxfacee Mon 20-Jun-16 19:18:19

Very rude.

Oliviaerinpope Mon 20-Jun-16 19:20:46


Queenofthebrae Mon 20-Jun-16 19:21:15

Personally I don't think you are being unreasonable. If she can afford to run the car then you'd think she could write off £10 as a thank you gesture to you.

CurlyMango Mon 20-Jun-16 19:23:18

Hate people like that. It may be tough but you have been wonderful. Down right cheeky of her.

OutsiderInTheGarden Mon 20-Jun-16 19:25:25

YANBU at all, but I would be worried that my friend was in a very desperate situation to ask such a thing. Given that you obviously have a very good friendship which you value, is it worth trying to find out whether this is the case? It's a very small sum of money and she must know she risked offending you by asking for it back after you gave her a car, so just how desperate must she be?

SaucyJack Mon 20-Jun-16 19:25:35

Depends how skint she is I guess.

PattiLevin Mon 20-Jun-16 19:26:10

Maybe she should have said something like 'look, I know you've been generous already and I'm grateful, but I'm really skint blah blah....'
But you've said she's been a good friend, YABU, cut her some slack.

NeedACleverNN Mon 20-Jun-16 19:28:34

I would be tempted to ask for the car back...BUT!!!

MrsDeVere is right. It's obvious she is desperately skint. That £10 you owe her could be the difference between eating and not eating this week

Floggingmolly Mon 20-Jun-16 19:30:48

So what if she's skint? confused. She'd be a damned sight skinter if she'd had to shell out for a new car??

Only1scoop Mon 20-Jun-16 19:32:42

Blimey....the brass neck

Ginslinger Mon 20-Jun-16 19:32:50

I'm another who thinks she must be flat broke

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