Have name changed for this. Am a longstanding poster, and I need some advice because I'm not sure if I'm massively overreacting, or what to do.
My Mum is almost certainly a high function alcoholic. I don't think she would describe herself in that way, or recognise that she has a problem. She drinks, on average, two or three large rum and cokes following by 1/2-1 bottle of wine a day. She does not hide this, or her excessive cigarette consumption - in fact, she almost goads comment, and is always trying to get others to participate.
My sister is also a big drinker/ smoker/ weed smoker. They enable one another/ egg each other on. They are very close. No-one would ever dare stand up to my mum. My sister had PND, and was very vulnerable, and may not be making great decisions. There are other examples of this.
I also have very different values/approach from them both in most aspects of my life (parenting/work/relationships/politics/interests etc etc).
My sister has four kids. The youngest is nearly four. My mum, and my sister, give her youngest wine. Gulps of wine. If she falls over, or is sad, or just because. It's hard to say how much, but at a family wedding on Saturday, I'd say I saw four or five gulps. They are together a lot, and I suppose I have no reason to think it doesn't happen often (ie - weekly+). I've seen it happen often.
When doing this, my mum will get eye contact if 'spotted' and say "it's fine, he likes it" and "trust me, it's good for him" etc.
So. I'm horrified. My attempts to gently discuss it with my sister and her husband have fallen on deaf ears. I have been absolutely clear that if she gave any of my children alcohol, I would simply stop contact - because it would be about power and challenging me and my approach, as well as being wrong.
On the other hand, it is arguably none of my business. So - AIBU to think it's wrong, and if not, what the hell do I do?
Really happy to be told to wind me neck in and leave it alone if others think it's not a problem.
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Giving children wine
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UserJuney · 20/06/2016 16:46
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20/06/2016 17:29
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