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tevion Mon 20-Jun-16 14:56:58

I have developed a obsession with trying to find a man for a fling.
I have been with partner for 28 years with one ds aged 15.
I have no attraction to my partner and am bored.
I am 45 years of age and have chatted to men as young as 21 and had some really sexy talk and so much love it it makes me feel so good.
The conversations get really rude at times.
I have had offers to meet up but chicken out always as I am not sure what to do.
Please I really need to speak to somebody about this.

PatMullins Mon 20-Jun-16 14:58:10

End your relationship so your DP can find someone worth being with.

tevion Mon 20-Jun-16 14:59:09

I know I am gonna end up doing something and need to get my head sorted but some of the conversations are so good.
I really want to meet one of them but know that I must be safe

HumpMeBogart Mon 20-Jun-16 15:00:11

Genuine question - what's stopping you from leaving your husband and finding someone to give you love and attention in RL?

You're not getting love online. I'm sorry to sound rude but if you're talking about sex with men you've never met, then it's about sex, not love.

tevion Mon 20-Jun-16 15:01:28

Yes I know but feel as though I am lost in this fantasy world and cant get out of it

PatMullins Mon 20-Jun-16 15:02:50

Fantasy. Exactly.

KittensandKnitting Mon 20-Jun-16 15:04:10

You sound very selfish

Leave your partner then screw who ever you want, when you want.

tevion Mon 20-Jun-16 15:04:42

cant help it pat some of the blokes tell me how lovely I am and I think some of them mean it not just saying it.

branofthemist Mon 20-Jun-16 15:05:06

Do you, your dp and your son a favour....Split with your DP, then start planning how to meet up with people.

PatMullins Mon 20-Jun-16 15:05:18

That's nice, dear.

KittensandKnitting Mon 20-Jun-16 15:06:04

Firstly they might mean it, they more than likely just want to have sex with someone not just you but yes they may well mean it.

But what your doing is cheating emotionally on your partner and planning to cheat on him physically it's disgraceful.

tevion Mon 20-Jun-16 15:06:58

I know its stupid but I have no lust for dp

tevion Mon 20-Jun-16 15:07:54

hell I don't know what to do

Pinkheart5915 Mon 20-Jun-16 15:08:30

If you don't want your dp, then you end things don't chat with other men for cheap frills behind his back there is no need to show such a lack of respect.

tevion Mon 20-Jun-16 15:08:40

Its taken over my life I have gone like this in the last 2 months

LadyDeadpool Mon 20-Jun-16 15:08:45

You're acting so selfishly its disgusting, do chat all you want and meet up if you want just split with your partner first he deserves better.

MariposaUno Mon 20-Jun-16 15:09:42

Your poor husband, all these men online are just looking for a cheap shag and a few compliments and a bit of dirty talk works a treat for them.

You won't feel so great when you get your head out of the clouds.

You obviously have issues within your marriage how about focusing on those with your husband?

tevion Mon 20-Jun-16 15:09:51

I don't want to uproot my son

PrivatePike Mon 20-Jun-16 15:10:08


biddleyboo Mon 20-Jun-16 15:10:56

I'm currently dabbling in OLD and have decided it isn't for me. I'm single (well mid divorce) and also in need of a self esteem boost.
OLD is NOT the place for it!! I have a couple of lines on my bio and people message telling me what an amazing person I sound like. I just think what the fuck? How can you possibly know that confused at the end of the day you know nothing about them except the words they put from the end of the keyboard. I'm not saying it can't transfer to real life, but since that isn't an option for you I think you ought to step away from the keyboard.
Cold turkey is the only way to go! Please don't think I am minimising the addictive nature of this medium, but honestly you won't feel any better about yourself in the long run.
Not going to comment on the situation with your husband, as in sure many others will come along to comment on that aspect of your post.

HermioneJeanGranger Mon 20-Jun-16 15:11:14

Break up with your DP and let him find someone who actually gives a shit about him.

TheNaze73 Mon 20-Jun-16 15:11:17

End it with your with your partner. You're embarrassing yourself

PatMullins Mon 20-Jun-16 15:11:26

6 weeks ago you wanted another baby...🤔

branofthemist Mon 20-Jun-16 15:11:37

Oh you don't want to uproot your son?

Yet you would rather do this behind his dad's back and risk getting caught?

I am sure when you are found out your son will really appreciate it. confused

Leave your DP

tevion Mon 20-Jun-16 15:12:14

always been failthful to him in the last 28 years never had anyone else so I haven't always been like this

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