I've asked my DS (11) after school care if she can provide any childcare over the summer holidays this year, as my usual summer childminder has stopped doing it. She has offered me a total of four days in August which I need covered (still got others to cover , but she's on holiday) and she will bill me at the end of August. My usual payments to her will stop next week, and I'll need to advice HMRC of that for them to amend my TC's. So really I'll need to pay the extra days without the help of TC's. I'm taking the first week off with DS, then every Thu/Fri (we've been given five free Friday's off work, thankfully), and I'm going to ask my dsil if she'll have him on Mondays. My ex is having him 3.5 days of the holidays, in the second weeks.
Is it reasonable to ask my ex to help me cover the cost of these four other days at the childminder? I know his suggestion will be that he can find someone else to watch DS those days, but one will be his DM who frankly, my son will be bored rigid with, and the other is a friend who is 5 months pregnant with a toddler and deserves her time off to herself as she is a teacher.
I've only recently asked him to up his maintenance from 65 to 100, so it won't go down well, but he'll have three wages between now and helping pay it. I've paid for all childcare since DS was 18 months (with help of TC's) so don't think IBU, but don't know how to word it, as we had a massive argument about the maintenance increase.
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Asking ex to help with cost of additional summer childcare
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blondieblondie · 20/06/2016 00:51
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