To think friends should have paid?

[00100001]

We were at a Harvestet restaurant last night with friends

There were 4 of us. They only charged for 3 meals. DH went over and told the server and we paid for the missing meal. All meals and drinks were very simlilar in price and came to about £15 pp.

So, anyway, there was a mix of feelings in the group. We thought it the right thing to do and said that we had paid for the 4th meal and maybe the friends should pit in their share. They said no, because as far as they were concerned they considered it a "win" and we were stupid for pointing out the error.


What does MN think? Should we have kept quiet? (In my mind, stealing) or did we do the right thing?

[Shenanagins]

Your friends are twats and should've paid.

[janethegirl2]

I'd have pointed out their error. YANBU

[Floggingmolly]

They sound bloody awful. Considered it a win... .

[NarkyKnockers]

I wouldn't have said anything but if someone else paid it I would put my share in.

[MargaretCabbage]

I always thought I'd keep quiet (on account of being quite poor) but I was recently undercharged for a meal and instantly pointed it out before I could think. It is the right thing to do, and I think most people would. Your friends ABU.

[TondelayaDellaVentamiglia]

we've pointed out missing drinks on the bill before now. Esp if waiting staff are nice.

however if they are not nice then too bad! No tip either.

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

You did absolutely the right thing, and your friends should have paid.

It might be worth pointing out to them that, whilst they might consider it a 'win', it would have been an outright loss for the waiter/waitress, who would very probably have had to cover that loss themselves.

I wouldn't want friends who thought it was a win to take money out of the pocket of very poorly paid waiting staff.

[ThenLaterWhenItGotDark]

Dump the scroungers.

[Kidnapped]

So your DH is out of pocket because your friends wouldn't pay their own share? How do they work out that it is one of them who got the 'free' meal rather then you or DH?

No way would I be out with them again. Honestly - these are not nice people. Who screws over a mate like that?

Talk about no good deed going unpunished.

[Lweji]

Ditch the "friends".

Not only they would be happy to not pay what they consumed (and I bet they'd go nuts if the restaurant charged more than they should) but they consider you stupid for paying what is fair and refused to pay their share.

They are not people I'd trust.

[Goingtobeawesome]

Friends definitely should have paid. Lovely and correct your DH did. He is a decent person. Your friends are twats and thieves.

[Eeeek686]

Yanbu, cannot Stand people like this - complete Dicks and thieving arseholes. I'm sure they would justify it by saying waitresses fault and might make her more careful in future, they're a bit business and serve them right for overcharging generally, etc (can you tell I've come across these types before) but everyone makes mistakes....

Would definitely make me rethink friendship!

[BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted]

"I wouldn't want friends who thought it was a win to take money out of the pocket of very poorly paid waiting staff."

Nor would I. But even worse, they thought it was OK to take money out your husband's pocket as well.

Shameless scroungers, and thieves to boot. Ditch them!

[00100001]

I could understand if we had got home and only realised. I'm not sure whaty I would do in that case.

It seemed a bit shit of them not to pay us back. As they would have only needed to give us £7.50.

It does make me wonder about them now.

[rookiemere]

We always point out errors in the bill, whether it be over or under charging.

It's amazing how grateful wait staff are when we do this. In Venice the man practically became DH's best pal, and insisted we came back after our operetta thing to have free drinks and desserts. This leads me to think that not everyone is as honest.

Your "friends" sound like a**holes and I'd be unkeen to go out for dinner with them again.

[Eminado]

😱
Shameless behaviour.
I would not socialise with them again.

[Kidnapped]

Actually OP.

This is the kind of entitled twattery that the Daily Mail keeps picking up from here and putting on its own grubby little website.

Have a think about whether you have put identifying information on other threads on Mumsnet. Don't want them outing you.

[NicknameUsed]

"I wouldn't want friends who thought it was a win to take money out of the pocket of very poorly paid waiting staff."

I agree. I would think less of anyone who thought that. I would also like to think that none of my friends would behave like yours.

[Grilledaubergines]

I would have paid too. Your friends are shits. And tight as a duck's arse.

[Kungfupandaworksout16]

Couldn't you have worked out which meal it was that wasn't paid for originally? And whoever ate that meal owes the money. No point falling out with 2 friends when only one technically owes you the money

[BreakfastLunchPasta]

Your friends are dishonest shits. I wouldn't see them again.

[listsandbudgets]

YANBU they should have paid their fair share.

If the resturant had said "thanks for letting us know but don't worry we'll let you off that meal" that would have been a win. Dishonestly and knowingly turning a blind eye and letting the serving staff take the consequences would ahve been a loss.

You did the right thing

[AugustaFinkNottle]

Even if they think it's OK to steal from the restaurant, I don't understand why they think it's all right to steal from your DH.

[JacquesHammer]

We "had a win" in a similar situation.

Planet Hollywood in DLP - forgot to put our second round of drinks on the bill. We alerted the waiter to this and he said "then that's our error, the bill is correct".

That was a win, not knowingly not paying for a meal