Last night me, DP and our DD went to visit my family who we only see maybe 3 X a year.
We spent an afternoon at my Dads local, really friendly place. We had a few drinks, not loads. My dad asked me to take a picture of my niece and brother together, on his phone. I did. I then took a picture of my dad immediately after, then moved round the circle to my DP, took a quick snap of him, then my other brother. The barman has joined us before this (we were sat outside and barman was on a break) as he's friendly with my dad as he's a regular, he was dead nice to all of us so after I took the picture of the other 3, I took a shot of the barman, who struck a mean pose for the camera. Just a laugh in my eyes. May sound silly to others, but I was in a silly mood, it was on my dads phone and I was just getting picture happy and just innocently took a picture.
DP was livid with me. Once we went back inside he said wtf are you doing taking pictures of the barman, flirting with him. I explained that it was my dads phone, I was taking pictures of the whole group and got snap happy, No one else thought anything of it. That was the only engagement with this barman I had, bar a quick convo with him and my dad.
Anyway DP wouldn't talk to me or Any of my family for the rest of the evening. He was completely silent and sat on his phone and didn't utter a word apart from when asked by my family is everything ok, then he just grunted. I was fuming and embarrassed because he looked so rude and ignorant. He didn't attempt to put our problems (if you can call them that) even for a few hours.
I have to spend a lot of time with his family (weekly basis) and I'm not their biggest fans, but i would never dream of ignoring them all night especially if it was a rare trip down to see them. My family have been nothing but lovely to him and they adore him and this is how he behaves.
Today we travelled back home and have not spoke. I was due to join his mum and dad for a Father's Day meal but I've decided not to go. My DP and DD have gone alone. I don't see why I should make an effort with his family who aren't the nicest of people anyway, when he treated me and my family like that last night.
Not to mention when I asked him what the he'll is wrong with him his response was 'you're a cunt. How would you feel if I walked up to the fit blonde at the bar and took s picture of her'. Completely not how it went down, but he feels that is a great comparison.
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Jasperkiss5 · 19/06/2016 13:45
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