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To not make a fuss of dh

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Eattunasarnies Sun 19-Jun-16 09:28:03

Got him gifts from the dc as they are to young to buy their own .we have a wedding to attend latter so no special plans . However I really can't be arsed to put aload on fb about how fab he is or run round doing things like breakfast in bed . Last month or so we have argued a lot over him nothing enough. After a week off we had no shopping ( he had done other jobs but forgot food shopping confused)
I think he should be grateful I'm still bloody with him- or am I being a cow ?

branofthemist Sun 19-Jun-16 09:31:45

My dh is pretty great and I won't be making a fuss of him on Facebook. Surely no one is sat waiting for a Facebook post?

Suzietwo Sun 19-Jun-16 09:35:26

I really don't get the Facebook thing. Why do I need to tell my friends that my kids father is great? Why do they give a shit?

Last night I sent him a couple of pics of him with kids telling him he's great. I felt that was addressing the correct audience...

Muskateersmummy Sun 19-Jun-16 09:39:03

Father's Day is personal, celebrate it however suits your family best. I have done a fb post, because i wanted to, and made him a cuppa, but no breakfast in bed. Say happy Father's Day, open presents and cards if that's what you want to do. Then some other time talk to him about the arguing because that's not great for any of you.

2ndSopranosRule Sun 19-Jun-16 09:44:21

Well, fathers day here is already turning into a rather odd day as my own dad is really very unwell and was blue lighted to hospital in the early hours. Just waiting for a call from mum to see what she wants me to do, which will be anything and everything.

So there won't be any fb posts saying how amazing my dad is, how amazing dh is as a dad because I've other priorities today.

Frankly the fb posts are pissing me off already and anyway, where were my plaudits in March, hmm?

Oddsocksgalore Sun 19-Jun-16 09:46:18

You are being a bit of a cow.

2ndSopranosRule Sun 19-Jun-16 09:47:14

I hope that wasn't addressed to me oddsocks.

Eattunasarnies Sun 19-Jun-16 09:47:19

Iv lost it told him exactly why I'm sick of him . It's not about fb it's the whole thing. Feeling like I should pretend he's a great dad and partner . He eArns money is faithful . Does little else at the mo . Well Iv told him and Iv maybe ruined his Father's Day telling him he's shit but he's ruined week after week recently . Feel a bit bad but he's been so thoughtless for weeks / months now . Always sorry but doesn't change angry

Eattunasarnies Sun 19-Jun-16 09:48:57

Sorry to hear that 2nd hugs to you .
flowers I hope you get good news soon

My own dad died 2 years ago and he hasn't asked how I am . Just sat there thinking its special day angry

Muskateersmummy Sun 19-Jun-16 09:56:53

2nd sorry to hear about your dad. I hope he makes a speedy recovery

My fb is full of Father's Day posts today.... But it was also full of Mother's Day ones in March. Both of which have made me smile. I like to see people's public declarations of love for their families. Maybe I'm soppy but it warms my heart, and is a break from the doom and gloom which seems to be all around us.

KateLivesInEngland Sun 19-Jun-16 11:13:50

I haven't looked on FB yet, my DH isn't on FB anyway so it's pointless. But I do seem to have a lot of gushy friends so no doubt I'll be in for a deluge of them.

Op, I haven't gone to mad with stuff for DH. Kids have all made cards and I've bought him some sweets and chocolates. He doesn't have any hobbies, doesn't listen to music, doesn't read, has a ton of clothes that he never wears so I'm at a loss as to what to buy him. He's out working now, on his day off, no idea when he'll be back so not even sure what we'll do today. confused
We also aren't getting on so great at the moment.

LuluJakey1 Sun 19-Jun-16 11:48:45

We don't do FB - it is utterly mindless imho. DH has taken DS to PIL this weekend- with his wrapped presents and cards from DS. FIL is unwell so they are having a weekend with him and MIL and SIL. I am having a lovely time alone and will make them a nice meal for tonight. Nothing public.

LuluJakey1 Sun 19-Jun-16 11:50:44

DS is 18 months old - the card is his hand prints and a cat paw print from her walking across the wet paint. I wrote a message from DS. Presents are a jumper and two books.

AllegraWho Sun 19-Jun-16 11:59:05

What's he done for you for Mother's Day ?

U2HasTheEdge Sun 19-Jun-16 12:07:05

I got him cards. I said I will make him an apple crumble but that's about it. He did get to buy some CDs as well.

I hate father's day. I try to be happy for my husband because he is an amazing father and step father but it's all a bit painful. My dad is a shit and it's just a reminder of what I don't have and three of my children's father is dead so it's a hard day for them too.

I did put a FB post up but it was a general one, wishing everyone a happy FD and love to those struggling today.

Crinkle77 Sun 19-Jun-16 12:19:56

All that facebook stuff is a load of bollocks anyway. Everyone competing to show who has the best relationship etc... when really they are miserable. It's all for show for the benefit of other people.

Highlandfling80 Sun 19-Jun-16 12:29:32

Yeah I hate that facebook crap. Me and dh now have no parents.
You have done plenty op. Pretty much the same as I did for dh for has done nothing but sit on his arse all morning.
2ND hope your dad is OK.

PeteHornberger Sun 19-Jun-16 12:31:58

No, I don't think you're being harsh-if things aren't great between you it needs discussing, not forgetting/minimising for a day. I see you've already told him how he's made you feel, so that's a start!

Fathers Day here tends to mirror Mothers Day, so he reaps what he sows! This year my mum bought him a present for me, so he got the present and card that my eldest made in school and nothing else! Tbf, we're skint at the mo and his bday was 2 weeks ago, so no pressie ideas and no money to buy them with. The FB stuff is largely irrelevant, I like seeing it on there from other people as it's nice to celebrate it but my DH and Dad don't have accounts, so v little point me putting something on there!

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