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Bee14 Sat 18-Jun-16 18:47:58

Sorry middle class problem, but no family near by dc2 a week old after long labour and EMC, witching hour appears to be late evening until early hours so dh and I have been doing shifts sitting with him. I had a melt down yesterday having had less than 4 hrs sleep a day for a week and in not longer than hour and a half chunks. I had also forgotten the swelling anxiety childbirth brings and how long it takes me to relax in to it (for better or worse my job requires me to be the one in control and with all the solutions in critical situations).

Much better day and night last night, dh took both shifts and was able to get some sleep as baby went down. So feel way better, now getting anxious about having hired a nanny. Comes highly recommended and plan is for 3-4 weeks for a couple of nights a week and to help me into routine/ discipline (not baby in routine way to early for that), but am I being unfair to my baby doing this I don't plan to hand baby over and go to bed but for her to watch routine and help get down and only take if wont settle at all.

icanteven Sat 18-Jun-16 18:55:31

Completely the right thing to do. I would ONLY have another baby if we could afford a night nanny for the first year.

The exhaustion of the first few weeks, especially if you get off to a bad start, is overwhelming and you are definitely NBU to do anything within your power to mitigate that.

scarednoob Sat 18-Jun-16 18:57:02

Fuck no, my friends who had them were much more human than me! If we ever have a second, it's top of my to do list. Enjoy your baby and a bit more sleep smile

eastmidswarwicknightnanny Sat 18-Jun-16 18:57:43

Lots people use night nannies for different reasons and certainly not unreasonable.

I totally empathise with sleep deprivation having 2 small boys ds1 was a dream sleeper and ds2 was terrible and a huge shock.

Hope you get some much needed rest and guidance from NN if that's what you need smile

Heirhelp Sat 18-Jun-16 18:59:43

Go for it. If you have the money then it is the right thing to do. We only have one 6 week old and I have been considering this.

After a EMCS you need to rest to heal. If you don't rest and get well you can't be the best Mum you can be.

Rumpelstiltskin143 Sat 18-Jun-16 19:00:18

It's what everyone did a hundred years ago. Mothers weren't supposed to put a foot to the floor for two weeks, they all had a nurse come in for at least two weeks to take care of things.

CoraPirbright Sat 18-Jun-16 19:02:32

I had a maternity nurse for 4 weeks for both of mine! The second time around, the nurse did all the night feeds as well - bloody brilliant as not only did I sleep, my ds got used to having breast milk from both boob and bottle. Totally go for it and don't give it a second thought. If you can afford it, why not? Sleep deprivation is a form of torture for a reason you know!

LetThereBeCupcakes Sat 18-Jun-16 19:03:45

Had I known such a thing existed, and could have afforded one, I'd have had a night nanny when DS was a baby. The absolute best thing for the whole family is that you are healthy, mentally and physically.

poocatcherchampion Sat 18-Jun-16 19:03:45

Feed the baby pass it to nanny and get some kip. And ditch the guilt!

Its so emotional having a baby so just remind yourself it is a fine thing to do.

Donatellalymanmoss Sat 18-Jun-16 19:05:25

YANBU it's important to remember to take care of yourself, I nearly broke after DC2 having to do so much when I should have been healing.

heyday Sat 18-Jun-16 19:08:50

You are extremely lucky to be in the position to do this financially so go for it and make the most of the precious rest/sleep you will be able to get. Don't feel bad about it. Your baby just wants milk and a cuddle and this age and won't care if it is you or another caring person who provides it.

Finola1step Sat 18-Jun-16 19:11:33

Go for it. I wish I had done it, especially with dc1.

KP86 Sat 18-Jun-16 19:12:45

Can I ask approximately how much this is costing you?

HemanOrSheRa Sat 18-Jun-16 19:13:05

If I'd known about such a thing when DS was a baby I would have absolutely done the same.

AliceInHinterland Sat 18-Jun-16 19:13:25

Bugger watching your routines - sleep for goodness sake!!

VimFuego101 Sat 18-Jun-16 19:13:57

YANBU. Do whatever you need to do to get sleep and rest.

ricketytickety Sat 18-Jun-16 19:14:07

Sounds like the right thing to do. It's not 'unfair' - baby won't be missing out or neglected by you. You're hiring in some help whilst you recover. Women have done it for millenia.

Okay377 Sat 18-Jun-16 19:16:23

It isn't what everyone did a hundred years a go rumpel - people who could afford it would do it, same as now.

Op don't have a second thought. Money well spent if it helps you and you won't be handing your baby over, you're just getting help to be able to look after yourself and dc. Go for it.

MmmMalbec Sat 18-Jun-16 19:20:59


CitaloPam Sat 18-Jun-16 19:21:11


I considered it with DD but couldn't afford it. Sleep deprivation almost killed me.

kitchenunit Sat 18-Jun-16 19:25:37

Stop fucking about and get some sleep!!

The night nanny knows what she's doing!

KP86 Sat 18-Jun-16 19:30:04

Also, agree with others to use the time wisely and get yourself some sleep! No point in watching someone else care for your child while you're so tired your eyes are held open by toothpicks.

Sorebigtoes Sat 18-Jun-16 19:35:32

YANBU. Do it!

AnnieOnnieMouse Sat 18-Jun-16 19:37:52

Go for it! People who can afford this have always done this. Until a few decades ago, people's families did it.
Employ, relax, sleep, heal.

totalturmoil Sat 18-Jun-16 19:47:07

My daughter is 5m and I still have a night nanny twice a week....!

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