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To not want to have my FIL over for lunch on Father's Day?

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StuntNun Sat 18-Jun-16 16:20:51

DH just texted me to ask whether it was okay for him to invite his dad over for lunch tomorrow. DFIL is on his own at the moment because DMIL is away visiting family and my two DBILs and DSIL live too far away to visit. I am stressed out about us moving house in three weeks, the house is a pigsty and DFIL will bring 'that damn dog' who has already bitten DH and myself. I honestly can't face it.

So AIBU to say no?

Sparkletastic Sat 18-Jun-16 16:22:26

Suggest DH takes his dad out for lunch.

TheNewSchmoo Sat 18-Jun-16 16:22:46

Yes, a bit, he wants to see his father on father's day.

Floralnomad Sat 18-Jun-16 16:23:01

I'd either say yes but no dog or all go out for dinner .

KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes Sat 18-Jun-16 16:24:45

Take him out.

Why does he have a dog who bites people? Is that a quirky hipster thing?

I'll never get my head around the dog thing...

MariaSklodowska Sat 18-Jun-16 16:26:35

yanbu but come up with an alternative plan

CodyKing Sat 18-Jun-16 16:26:42

Say yes - but DH is cooking and washing up - he'll change the plan quick enough

WorraLiberty Sat 18-Jun-16 16:27:05

Either let him come but without the dog

Or tell your DH to take his Dad out.

StuntNun Sat 18-Jun-16 16:28:38

DH will happily cook and wash up. The dog is horrendously spoiled and DFIL won't train him. If DH takes DFIL out for lunch then I'll be left in the bombsite house with all four children.

EdithWeston Sat 18-Jun-16 16:29:00

It's such short notice that you could say 'OK, but we haven't a thing in, so let's all go out'. If you have a nice place nearby which also bans dogs, that solves the other problem.

MrsSpecter Sat 18-Jun-16 16:30:27

If DH takes DFIL out for lunch then I'll be left in the bombsite house with all four children.

Surely the four children should be taking their dad and grandad for lunch as its fathers' day? wink

WorraLiberty Sat 18-Jun-16 16:33:42

If I didn't want to go with them and take the children, I would have no problem minding my own kids alone for a couple of hours, so my DH could take his Dad to lunch on Father's day, even if the house was up in a heap.

Is there more to the story OP?

NapQueen Sat 18-Jun-16 16:34:12

The dads and all the kids should be going out for lunch together!

That will give you time to de-bombsite the house.

Euphemia Sat 18-Jun-16 16:35:00

Yep - Fathers Day, it's not your dad - the people with fathers present go out with fathers. Mum stays home. smile

NapQueen Sat 18-Jun-16 16:35:06

I also don't understand why he is asking your permission. He cooks anyways so he could have just said "I'm cooking a lunch tomorrow and have invited my dad, hope that's ok" - that's how it would work in our house either way.

coconutpie Sat 18-Jun-16 16:35:48

Tell him he can come but DH will cook and clean up but that absolutely no to the dog coming too.

OurBlanche Sat 18-Jun-16 16:37:07

NapQueen What are you thinking?

That will give you time to de-bombsite the house. Fuck that!

If DH wants his dad over then he can clean the bloody house... all afternoon, right now!

OP can swan off to the shops and buy some nice food for DH to cook for his dad tomorrow smile

clam Sat 18-Jun-16 16:42:15

The dads and all the kids should be going out for lunch together!

That will give you time to de-bombsite the house.

Who is she, Cinderfuckingrella?

Summerwood1 Sat 18-Jun-16 16:42:41

Take him to McDonald's that way no dog and no washing up.

StuntNun Sat 18-Jun-16 16:45:42

DS3 and DS4 have allergies so eating out is a pain. I have bought stuff for my kids to give to DH tomorrow and organised cards.

I think my issue is that the house has been a mess for three weeks and it's really getting me down. Having someone over for lunch is going to mean no tidying up is possible. Also DFIL has a history of turning up and saying he's just had breakfast so he isn't hungry.

Tbh I just can't be bothered with all the faff.

NapQueen Sat 18-Jun-16 16:46:10

She's complaining about two things (1) file coming over and (2) the house being a mess.

Dh taking FIL and kids out solves two things - no FIL visiting and time and space to sort the house

I don't think she is cinderella. I have read she is a woman who doesn't want her fil round for lunch and thinks her house is a mess.

Orwellschild Sat 18-Jun-16 16:46:23

It's Father's Day. Not nice for him to be alone. Just one day, I'd allow it. if it was the other way around and a mum would be alone on Mother's Day, there wouldn't be talk of McDonald's and such.

OrangesandLemonsNow Sat 18-Jun-16 16:48:30

Tbh I just can't be bothered with all the faff.

That isn't fair tbh. You don't want him round on Fathers day as it's 'too much faf'

NapQueen Sat 18-Jun-16 16:50:10

And really the faff is dh's responsibility. He can clean the rooms fil will be in and cook the food. Why is it your faff?

StuntNun Sat 18-Jun-16 16:51:58

So I should say yes then?

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