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To think I shouldn't pay for replacement GHD hair straighteners

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LikeDylanInTheMovies Sat 18-Jun-16 11:56:33

I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable here.

My wife has a pair of 5 year old God hair straighteners. They have an intermittent wiring fault that means they are very much hit and miss in their operation.

She'd used them last night and left them plugged in and balanced precariously on the mantle piece with the wire dangling down. As I walked into the lounge this morning I got my foot caught around the trailing wire (nearly going flying in the process) and pulled the straighteners off the mantelpiece and onto the stone floor below.

I've had a series of angry texts demanding that I buy her a new pair of ghd straighteners at a cost of £100 plus. (We have separate finances)

I think she's being unreasonable. Because

A) They were a knackered pair of straighteners on their last legs that she would have needed to replace anyway in the next few months.

B) left in such a stupid place they were bound to get damaged and cause an accident in the process.

I've offered £30 towards the cost of a replacement, but she is adamant I should pay the full cost of a new pair.

AIBU?

EatShitDerek Sat 18-Jun-16 11:58:34

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BlackVelvet1 Sat 18-Jun-16 11:59:10

YANBU
I would offer to buy them for next birthday/Christmas/present occasion though.

andintothefire Sat 18-Jun-16 12:02:09

She is being very unreasonable! I would not put up with my DP sending me angry texts demanding money like that. I also wouldn't dream of treating him that way when I was at fault - I would be more concerned that he might have hurt himself because of my stupidity.

GrimmauldPlace Sat 18-Jun-16 12:03:16

As I tell my DC. If you leave your things lying about in silly places, don't blame someone else if they get damaged.

YANBU.

WellErrr Sat 18-Jun-16 12:04:29

I'd go half if I broke something like that of my husband's.

She shouldn't have left them there but you did break them. If you hadn't, she wouldn't be looking at forking out £100 right now.

scaryteacher Sat 18-Jun-16 12:04:37

If you have accidental damage on your contents insurance you can claim on that if it's worth it.

EatShitDerek Sat 18-Jun-16 12:05:39

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Does the seperate finances cause an issue in general? Does she have the money to buy a new pair? Is she feeling stretched financially? Is there a big mismatch in uput finances?

Might explain her reaction

HahahahaFuckYou Sat 18-Jun-16 12:06:13

DO NOT BUY GHDs ON EBAY!!

Just sayin'smile

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut Sat 18-Jun-16 12:06:52

Does she have equal spending power to you? ie after bills do you have the same amount of cash for spending?

Queenbean Sat 18-Jun-16 12:08:28

GHDs from eBay are only good for parts

They become shit after a few years anyway.

Get some Coriolis ones instead

ITCouldBeWorse Sat 18-Jun-16 12:09:03

Seriously? Unless £100 will put in the familly in trouble, you (plural) just buy replacements fgs.

You are married. She should not leave them somewhere daft though - I would worry about burning someone or them melting/catching fire. Presumably that's why she used the fire place?

Separate finances make you both sound a bit petty imo,

With all my worldly goods I thee endow unless you put your GHDs somewhere daft.

Splash out and buy a heat resistant mat whilst at the shops.

GrimmauldPlace Sat 18-Jun-16 12:09:08

Fair enough if she's in a difficult financial situation, but that would make me take even more care of my belongings if I knew I wouldn't be able to afford to replace them. Nobody needs GHD's either. There are cheaper straighteners.I have some and I find them a bit shit. Although my hair is a frizzy mess so nothing really helps.

EatShitDerek Sat 18-Jun-16 12:09:16

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LottieDoubtie Sat 18-Jun-16 12:12:58

Can either/both of you reasonably afford the cost of replacements?

If the drip feed is she is a Sahm who you keep poor as a church mouse and last night was her first night out for 5 years and she's wearing an asda bra with a hole in because she can't buy herself new clothes then yup yabu.

If the reverse she is.

If you both have broadly similar finances well then the question still remains WHY you have separate finances with your wife. Share your heart and home and all that.

Oysterbabe Sat 18-Jun-16 12:13:24

You owe her the cost of a like-for-like replacement, the cost of a 5 year old knackered set, so your offer is reasonable. You don't need to buy her a new pair and therefore put her in a better position than she was before the incident.

BreakerofChains Sat 18-Jun-16 12:17:32

YANBU, I'd tell her to take a running jump because of the demanding text messages alone.

BreakerofChains Sat 18-Jun-16 12:18:52

And it's up to the OP and his wife if they have separate finances, not everyone has joint accounts y'know?

BoGrainger Sat 18-Jun-16 12:19:09

Love God straighteners grin They are godlike I agree

WalkingBlind Sat 18-Jun-16 12:21:29

Me and DP have separate finances but his are substantially a lot more than mine, so I wouldn't be able to replace them and he wouldn't even notice £100 if it fell down the side of the sofa. He would replace them but I totally agree that they aren't worth replacing with brand new GHDs.... This sounds bad but is there a chance she's laying it on thick to make you feel guilty enough as she wanted a new pair badly anyway?

I could just say "DP my straighteners are shit and he would say let's go halves on a new pair" rather than all the blaming each other confused

Cakescakescakes Sat 18-Jun-16 12:22:13

Why are you both being so hostile to each other? Doesn't sound like a pair of GHD's is the big problem.

WalkingBlind Sat 18-Jun-16 12:23:40

Also it depends if you can afford to replace them, if you easily can I'd be saying to her "maybe if you hadn't kicked off and made demands I would have surprised you with a pair", her attitude of entitlement makes her seem very undeserving of an expensive gift, sorry

LemonySmithit Sat 18-Jun-16 12:24:15

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GrumpyMcGrumpFace Sat 18-Jun-16 12:25:29

I agree Cakes - the God straighteners (love that!) sound like a catalyst rather than an actual problem. This is not how people talk to each other in a happy relationship sad

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