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AIBU to be offended by Hubby's rating?!

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Enix Sat 18-Jun-16 01:10:08


I asked hubby to rate a film (Life of Pi) in regards to how much he enjoyed it overall; I was baffled by his rating as he said the film was 'ok' and then gave it a 'solid 7' out of 10. He then rated a few other films (his favourite reaching a 9.2).

Out of curiosity, I then asked him to rate how much he liked this girl he liked for ages at the time of liking her (the only girl he actually liked other than me. However they never dated as she rejected him when he asked her out a few times) when he was much younger (20). He claims he never loved her but liked her; her rating was 7.3. Obviously I had to have a current rating for myself (his wife for over a year and a half but happily been together for over 5 and a half years) and he gave me a 9.9 (probs an exaggeration!).


AIBU that I'm a (fair) bit offended that he liked her only 26/27% less than how much he loves me?!? shock


I usually do ask him some hypothetical questions (some comfortable and some uncomfortable/that will make you think) and we rate stuff all the time so this is not that weird a thing to do for us.

RJnomore1 Sat 18-Jun-16 01:13:25

Im more of a top three than out of ten person so while I do kwym I think you need to chill - 27% less liking is way out top threes...

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut Sat 18-Jun-16 01:13:27

I think as soon as you start fishing for compliments no good will come of it.

But mostly I can't believe you actually did the maths... and then took offence.

MrsTerryPratchett Sat 18-Jun-16 01:23:40

You share 70% of your genome with a sea sponge. Unclench.

TheDowagerCuntess Sat 18-Jun-16 01:23:52


YAB totally U.

You asked the question - you got the answer.

He liked her at the time, so of course if he's asked to rate her hmm he will give her a decent 'score'. hmm

He's with you. He married you. He gave you a much higher rating.

If you wanted him to lie to placate you, you should have warned him of that. Otherwise, don't ask the question, if you don't want an honest answer.

P.S. hmm

WorraLiberty Sat 18-Jun-16 01:24:24

This thread is far weirder than I can cope with on a Friday night, after a few glasses of wine grin

But I think it's safe to say you two need to chill out and cut the testing one another and the mathematics

It all sounds a bit weird and uncomfortable.

WorraLiberty Sat 18-Jun-16 01:27:03

You share 70% of your genome with a sea sponge. Unclench.

grin grin grin that ^ comment ^has to be comment of the year, even though it's only June.

Worthy of a t.shirt printing imo grin

TheDowagerCuntess Sat 18-Jun-16 01:27:03

It's weirder than I can cope with stone cold sober, on a Saturday morning.

CadleCrap Sat 18-Jun-16 01:27:39

You share 70% of your genome with a sea sponge. Unclench.

MRs TP that is the funniest thing I have read in ages.

Enix Sat 18-Jun-16 01:30:28

Well he is a mathematician so we usually are relatively accurate with numbers...

MrsTerryPratchett - that did make me laugh! Unclenching right away... blush

Thanks guys, I do think I'm being stupid! Of course I want an honest answer and we never argued about it or anything, I'm just surprised and offended (internally) by it!

ParadiseCity Sat 18-Jun-16 01:34:46

Surely you mathsy couple would rate Life of Pi as 3.14?

Enix Sat 18-Jun-16 01:36:35

Paradise - only if it's squared grin

MrsTerryPratchett Sat 18-Jun-16 01:40:31

My work here is done grin

2nds Sat 18-Jun-16 01:46:34

Who says 7. 3 in that kind of conversation? Either someone is a 7 or an 8. I reckon he wanted to give her an 8 and you a 9 but he thought 7.3 and 9.9 would sound better to you.

Don't fish for this kind of stuff if you might not like the answers.

bananapeanut Sat 18-Jun-16 01:48:05

How on earth are you offended by this?

1) rating people is childish

2) he rated you A LOT higher than someone else that he once fancied - that's praise? What did you want him to rate her? A 3? But he fancied her?

2nds Sat 18-Jun-16 01:50:34

Oh and BTW I'd divorce him for the life of pi rating alone.

laidbackneko Sat 18-Jun-16 01:51:26


Bogeyface Sat 18-Jun-16 02:40:40

Some questions should never be asked, especially of honest people. An honest person gives an honest answer and sometimes the truth isnt what you want to hear.

Also, never ask the "whats the best sex you ever had" question and the "have you ever been truly in love" question. It wont end well if you are ex[ecting to hear "only with you my darling" as an answer or are asking for validation of your feelings/relationship, especially (as I said before) if the person you are asking is honest. I saw the "have you ever been truly in love" question end a friends relationship after it was asked in jest and answered in truth. sad

Maryz Sat 18-Jun-16 03:17:13

YABU for using the term "hubby".

Therefore I'm on his side, no matter what he does.

tigerdriverII Sat 18-Jun-16 03:21:57

What Maryz said.

Georgina1975 Sat 18-Jun-16 03:27:06

If "boyfriend" had been used here instead of "hubby" (urgh - what Maryz said) I would think you are around 15/16.

DeathStare Sat 18-Jun-16 03:31:58

Well he is a mathematician so we usually are relatively accurate with numbers...

But you are trying to turn a qualitative experience (feelings) into quantitative data. There is no "accurate". In this sense the numbers and the gaps between them are completely arbitrary.

DeathStare Sat 18-Jun-16 03:33:07

Also asking a partner to rate you against someone else is always a conversation likely to lead to hurt feelings no matter how the answer is phrased

PitilessYank Sat 18-Jun-16 05:22:33

Maybe he thinks it's a logarithmic scale? In that case, 9.9 is way higher than 7.3.

Watchingdallas Sat 18-Jun-16 05:35:57

What the actual fuck?!

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