Going away Aibu?

(91 Posts)
Unicornsandfairies44 Thu 16-Jun-16 19:57:39

So I am meant to be going away for a few days to a spa resort with some girlfriends, but that means leaving my 4 kids with my DH, I trust him to look after them, but he works. So my eldest DD said she could look after the younger ones, but she is revising for her GCSEs. Aibu for leaving her to look after them, because I feel so guilty about it.

formerbabe Thu 16-Jun-16 20:20:17

Yes yabvu.

TheseLittleEarthquakes Thu 16-Jun-16 20:21:30

Oh yes. I see nothing wrong at all with leaving a 15/16 year old in charge of three younger children in the middle of her GCSEs. What could possibly go wrong?

LadyAntonella Thu 16-Jun-16 20:22:57

I do think that's quite a bad idea OP (sorry). Your DD's GCSE revision definitely trumps a spa holiday with girls.

mygorgeousmilo Thu 16-Jun-16 20:31:03

My sister did this last year and DN was so stressed and upset about revision. I was appalled! If your husband can't cover the whole trip then maybe just go for one night.

CrazyDuchess Thu 16-Jun-16 20:32:47

Will have to agree with the others, I wouldn't do it sad

Unicornsandfairies44 Thu 16-Jun-16 20:46:15

Hmm, I guess I see what you mean. I have had a talk with the eldest DD who says she will be fine, but now I'm not sure. What do you guys think if I shorten it to 2 days 1, night (meaning DD will need to pick up my 2 youngest from school 1st day and drop off 2nd day)?

Chippednailvarnishing Thu 16-Jun-16 20:49:21

I think she deserves the best chance she can get, your spa trip isn't important enough to compromise this.

pictish Thu 16-Jun-16 20:50:28

Hell I'd go.

Unicornsandfairies44 Thu 16-Jun-16 20:51:06

I understand, do you think I should cancel it altogether?

StillStayingClassySanDiego Thu 16-Jun-16 20:51:14

They're finished soon , how many has she got left?

Unicornsandfairies44 Thu 16-Jun-16 20:52:13

Do you think I should only go for the 2 days and 1 night though?

EatShitDerek Thu 16-Jun-16 20:52:23

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

StillStayingClassySanDiego Thu 16-Jun-16 20:52:35

Tomorrow in fact, ds3 has two next week that are extras.

Last one is Physics tomorrow.

Unicornsandfairies44 Thu 16-Jun-16 20:53:06

She has 1 more to go, the exam is 2 days after I get back.

ssd Thu 16-Jun-16 20:54:28

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Chippednailvarnishing Thu 16-Jun-16 20:55:25

You seem more interested in your trip than your daughter.

I feel like this thread is you just seeking validation rather than opinions.

Sallyingforth Thu 16-Jun-16 20:56:32

You can go off to the spa any time. The exam affects her whole life.
Do you really need to ask?

Chippednailvarnishing Thu 16-Jun-16 20:56:45

Good point Ssd.

The daily mail are a bunch of cunts grin

Unicornsandfairies44 Thu 16-Jun-16 20:59:27

I get that she is going through a big part of her life and I really want her to be great academicly. If I could, I would re-schedule but it would be hard. I can cancel it, and look after my younger kids.

Chippednailvarnishing Thu 16-Jun-16 21:03:42

I get that she is going through a big part of her life

So why are you asking? What a weird first thread.

Unicornsandfairies44 Thu 16-Jun-16 21:08:00

I get what you mean. Before I came on here, I didn't think I was going to be causing my DD such a big issue (being a mum for 16 years has made me forget that it can be really challenging to a newbie!) but since reading all the comments I have seen this in a new light.

NicknameUsed Thu 16-Jun-16 21:10:42

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ThatsMyStapler Thu 16-Jun-16 21:13:11

" DH, I trust him to look after them, but he works. "

its a tough one, how long will DD have to 'look after' them?

TheseLittleEarthquakes Thu 16-Jun-16 21:15:33

You could always try taking your younger three away for a week in the sun (the first the family had ever had) leaving your 15yo at home to 'study'.

Because that hasn't had a long lasting effect on my life, including being diagnosed with a personality disorder.

hmm

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