I left an abusive relationship with dds dad. It was a confusing time and neither of us realised it was abusive just put it down to him being depressed and angry. He's now doing a perpetrator course seeking help from gp and therapists. I moved in with parents in feb, however my dad seems to resent the fact that we live here now with him and my mum. He told me he's not a parent he's a grandad, I asked him why he thought he was a parent because I don't want or expect him to be because he's not, he then responded with you're not either.
I feel like I've been through enough, I appreciate them allowing us to stay here until I can afford to live independently with my dd and I hate that I can't provide her a home but my dad constantly reminds me that I'm in his house, that he's put the roof above dds head not me, aibu to think I should just leave and go on the council waiting list for a house, probably have to leave my nursing course because I can't afford it all. I'm a student so at the moment can't afford private renting. Dd is 9 months at the moment, I planned to stay here until I finished my uni course which wouldn't be until March 2018 when I would have a proper income and can then buy a home. In the meantime though I don't want dd growing up in an environment where I'm criticised infront of her, as I'm told by my own dad that I'm a rubbish mother, and made to feel like a rubbish mother. I already feel like one after the breakdown of my relationship with dds dad, loss of home, and nasty counter allegations made by ex which he now apologises for. I've lost the life I had and am already going to counselling for depression, my dads comments just leave me feeling worse.
I wanted better for dd, and I know in two years if I stay at uni I can provide that for her. I'm just really struggling to cope with this living environment and feeling unwelcome
I didn't have a particularly happy childhood and was constantly criticised, and called names. I thought now I'm older it would change but I see it happening again. I left ex but my dad makes me feel just as bad if not worse. I don't know what to do, I have dd to think of, I don't think it's possible to do it all
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Snugglesundertheduvet · 15/06/2016 09:44
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