To go on strike in our house

[streetdog]

My once lovely helpful child.

So apparently its not dds (13) job to do anything in the house. Why should she clean anything up when it might contain something of mine. Why should she put three pots in the sink when one was mine or put the cake back in the tin when she cut her share off because the remaining part is mine so i should move the cake she got out oh and i better have dinner on the table the minute she walks in despite her getting home anywhere between 3.30 and 4.30pm or rather than have a snack and wait half an hour for dinner she will eat her packed lunch stuff for the next day then demand a second meal when asked to go to bed.

Lets see how that works out for you dd because I can think of lots of things that might not become my job..

[peachpudding]

dont be so mean, your the mum, its your job.

[Brokenbiscuit]

Seriously, peach? Are you the dd?

[Creatureofthenight]

I hope you're joking, Peach.

[Brokenbiscuit]

X post with Creature!

[ShesAStar]

My DS is 7 and has one job to do a day to earn his pocket money. He moans a lot sometimes but does it to get his pocket money, could you strike a similar deal?

[Oly5]

I would definitely go on strike!!! And stop any money you give her

[VestalVirgin]

Go on strike. Gets the point across much better than any discussion.

[Fieryfighter]

Well someone doesn't have a packed lunch tomorrow then unless she makes it herself. Or clean clothes, or breakfast made....

[StandoutMop]

Pfft, I'm with you OP. Mine are 8 & nearly 10 and are making their own lunches and breakfast tomorrow. I will make dinner, they can eat it or not.
Their uniform is clean, they can collect it from airer and get themselves ready in the morning. I've told them we leave at 8.30am whatever they are wearing, have packed for school etc.
Why? Because I am sick of doing stuff they can do for themselves and for no thanks. Yes they are my children, but I am not their slave. They need to take some responsibility for themselves, not just ignore requests / take so long to do stuff I do it for them.
Hope your strike succeeds OP.

[fieldfare]

Cut her off from the wifi and remove electronics.
It's your "job" to provide a safe home, food and clothes not expensive gadgetry and connectivity.

Maybe give her a few days of that and then when she's stopped stomping and squawking about inform her that she can have the gadgets back and earn the wifi code each day by doing a few set chores.

[Itsaplayonwords]

Along the lines of fieldfare, make her earn the WIFI password.

[Itsaplayonwords]

Oh I didn't read the last bit of your post. I'll just shut up!

[Queenbean]

STRIKE!!

[streetdog]

Wifi password changed.
I pointed out that as she had looked at a specific course offered at a residential college in two and a half years she could be living away and I am sure her room mates will lve moving her manky underwear and flushing the toilet.

I mean seriously she has been flushing the toilet since to years old. Why suddenly is it such an effort?!

[streetdog]

*two

[BlackeyedSusan]

My ds occasionally tries this. I then list a lot of stuff that I do... he gets the message eventually he is seven. It is going to be hell when he is thirteen and hormonal. You have my sympathies. good luck with it.

From a personal point of view, the stuff I had to do for myself from childhood is not onerous. the stuff my mum did for me for far too long is harder to get used to doing even now the best part of 30 years on. You will be doing her a favour.

[moomoogalicious]

As a mum of a teen, at My DS is 7 and has one job to do a day to earn his pocket money. He moans a lot sometimes but does it to get his pocket money, could you strike a similar deal?