Last year I had a big-ish birthday and arranged a night out and a BBQ at my place for those who couldn't attend or didn't fancy the night out, trying to cater for everyone. I made a FB event thing about a month in advance so people had lots of notice.
In the end it just ended up being more upsetting than anything because hardly anyone seemed bothered about coming. 2 people came on the night out, one of those being dsis.
For the BBQ, DP's sister and mother came but only briefly as they were doing off other things, turned up in the afternoon, stayed for about an hour then left, one of DP's friends came with his gf and a couple of my friends came but they also didn't stay long and seemed like they couldn't wait to leave TBH. My dsis was the only person that came and actually seemed like she wanted to be there.
I got very upset about the lack of interest before hand and one night when I was a bit tipsy and emotional I cried and had a big rant to DP, suggesting just calling the whole thing off because no one could be arsed to come. I'm 99% sure he is the reason everyone bar dsis turned up because I think he secretly told people how upset I was and asked them to come.
I want to do something for my birthday this year but I don't want to go through all the upset of organising something only to find that I have to beg and plead with people to turn up, or just cancel due to lack of interest.
WIBU to just not bother this year?
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FedupofbeingtoldIcantusemyname · 13/06/2016 21:31
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