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Making love. To want to throw up.....

227 replies

TheNaze73 · 13/06/2016 16:51

When people use the expression "making love"

Makes me want to vomit on the spot, puts my teeth on edge & it just sounds, so Mills and Boon

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LordoftheTits · 13/06/2016 16:52

YANBU, it's so cringey!

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Bananalanacake · 13/06/2016 16:55

Yes, I had an older exBF who said it in such a cringey way it put me right off him.

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Dozer · 13/06/2016 16:56

Yanbu!

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TheHiphopopotamus · 13/06/2016 16:56

Yanbu, but everything else sounds a bit harsh. Fucking and shagging? I can't thing of a 'nice' way to put it otherwise. 'Let's have sex' is a bit clinical and unromantic.

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Cutecat78 · 13/06/2016 16:56

I don't mind it at the right moment - it's quite romantic Blush

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GreaseIsNotTheWord · 13/06/2016 16:59

YANBU op. Makes me cringe.

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acasualobserver · 13/06/2016 17:00

What expression would you prefer, OP?

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NotExactlyHappyToHelp · 13/06/2016 17:01

Yanbu! It makes me feel all crawly and wrong.

As TheHiphopopotamus (love your NN) says though everything else either sounds too clinical I.e 'Having sex' or 'intercourse' or too wild and devoid of emotion 'fucking' etc.

We usually go with the Marvin Gaye route of 'getting it on' accompanied by winking and waggling of eyebrows but I'm well aware that'd make some people want to barf.

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romoca · 13/06/2016 17:04

Hehe it is a bit cringy, I only say it when messing around with the hubby just for euugh factor!!!

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Cutecat78 · 13/06/2016 17:04

"I'm going to nail you in two?"

Better?

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daydreamnation · 13/06/2016 17:10

I hate it too but agree that there isn't a great alternative. I'd be insulted if someone I had only just met referred to it as fucking but more than happy for dh to say it Blush

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MrsJorahMormont · 13/06/2016 17:18

It is a loathsome expression. It shouldn't be but it is.

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Ilovetorrentialrain · 13/06/2016 17:19

Who is saying to you OP? Tell them it's putting you off!

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KateLivesInEngland · 13/06/2016 17:19

I once heard my dad use that terminology (towards my mum) when I was a kid. It scarred me, I tell you!
I honestly can't hear it without shuddering, let alone use it myself.

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exWifebeginsat40 · 13/06/2016 17:20

'heyyy baby. you DTF?'

not really any smooth way to broach the subject, i don't think. although in my early 20s, 'fancy a shag?' usually worked.

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claraschu · 13/06/2016 17:20

Some things are better left unsaid. Whatever happened to wordless communication and a little bit of innuendo?

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BastardGoDarkly · 13/06/2016 17:20

We say 'fancy a shag' or 'fancy a fuck' yes, we've got two kids, romance is dead.

If dh said 'im going to make love to you' I'd gaffaw I reckon.

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ThePinkOcelot · 13/06/2016 17:22

Lol Banana, me too!! He started talking about when we start making love! Ewww I could have puked right there and then!

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Arfarfanarf · 13/06/2016 17:22

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justdontevenfuckingstart · 13/06/2016 17:22

Me and oh made love once. Both decided it was not for us and now just fuck. You're gonna get it suffices.

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littlejeopardy · 13/06/2016 17:24

Doesn't bother me, but it isn't one I use. Now I come to think of it, I am not sure what we say... I think we just look hopeful and say 'do you wanna...?'

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OurBlanche · 13/06/2016 17:26


OK... Maybe, maybe not Smile
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MaidOfStars · 13/06/2016 17:27

Hate it. As my husband once reminded me (when I spent too long gazing at him as we kissed), 'It's always been 'fucking' with us - it's what we do'.

Tantric spiritual sensuality we are not.

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bibbitybobbityyhat · 13/06/2016 17:27

Feeling like vomiting on the spot is a massive over reaction.

Can't you just think "well that's not how I would put it".

Live and let live eh?

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MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 13/06/2016 17:28

clara - can't be left unsaid anymore because that causes issues around what constitutes consent Hmm

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