to think pre school are flaunting double standard

[Costaflyby11]

Regular user, recent NC

This is somewhat light hearted as I do not intend to do anything about it, I'm just curious what people think really as it seems really odd to me

Pre school don't allow us to put any sweets/choc etc in pack ups they even 'suggest' no raisins as they are full of sugar! This is totally fine with me, DS does enjoy something 'sweet' after meals but he has a really healthy diet and is just as happy with an apple as a choc bar so there's no issue

The bit I can't understand is if the kids are well behaved, help with tidying, do good listening etc they are rewarded with a bag of sweets!

I don't mind my DS getting sweets for helping, but I find it a little strange that I am not allowed to put a little choc bar or cookie etc in his pack up once in a while, but they can give him packs of sweets as a reward?

Doesn't this seem a little bit odd to anyone?

Like I said its light hearted in that I'm really not too bother, I'm certainly not planning on kicking up a fuss about it for the sake of a few bags of sweets, just curious to people's thoughts really x

[Costaflyby11]

[Cravingdairy]

I wouldn't be pleased because I don't want mine to get treats as a reward. I dont mind them getting sweet things as part of their meals - our nursery provides all food and drinks and they give desserts, cakes etc which I'm fine with.

[Acopyofacopy]

School rules and common sense sometimes seem to be mutually exclusive... I'd say don't sweat the small stuff, just roll your eyes and go in when a fight is worth fighting. You've got years and years of insanity ahead of you!

[RiverTam]

Bizarre! I also don't like sweets as a reward - what's the matter with a sticker?!

[Celticlassie]

Nope - I think the idea of sweets as a reward can create an unhealthy attitude towards food later in life. it's an appalling double standard.

[DecaffCoffeeAndRollupsPlease]

Eye rolling is the way to go. It's a definite, blatant, not exactly healthy double standard -
sweet as part of meal is better than as a reward.

[Bae]

Yep normal in schools imo

DD's old primary school used to do the whole "we are a healthy eating school" thing, and then sell ice-creams on the yard every day after school

[Costaflyby11]

That's what I though, surely it's healthier to have something sweet as part of meal rather than as a 'treat' definitely just an eye roll situation, I'm sure there will be battles that are worth fighting, his just isn't one of them!

[BlackeyedSusan]

yep, another school selling icepops after school but they are a healthy eating school.

[SheStoodInTheStorm]

I don't understand a reward like that for tidying up or listening! A sticker maybe, a "well done" absolutely...not sweets! I don't really understand that to be honest and I actually probably would want to say something.
They can't just learn to tidy up because they get sweets! What happens when they start school?
(I am a teacher)

[Octonought]

Yep, my son's school refused to let him eat the solitary chocolate button that I put in his lunchbox and Christmas as its against school policy. If he'd had a school dinner that day, desert was chocolate biscuit with ice cream

[fatmomma99]

but Bae it's not a school it's a PRE school.

I agree in primary school there's loads of stuff going on. My DD never tasted sweets or chocolate until she was about 3 because I never gave them to her (how I laugh at the irony of that now she's 14 and only eats processed crap).

Also agree it's not a battle worth fighting.

BUT also agree - what's wrong with a sticker? Kids love 'em!

[Shallishanti]

YANBU
IMO it comes down to people not really thinking through- or maybe not understanding the reason for these policies
at least they have them though- when my dcs were at school I was the mad parent complaining because there was only sugary squash to drink at sports day and my kids ended up dehydrated because they didnt like it

[RubbleBubble00]

I wouldnt have thought any nursery with healthy eating policy should be dishing out sweets. Stickers, treasure box toys work just as well. Our school have stopped letting kids have jam on their toast at breakfast club due to the sugar - irritating for me as I'm trying to get weight onto ds and he will eat double amount if toast has jam on it.

[Costaflyby11]

There's a part of me that finds it a little bit offensive that they don't deem me responsible enough to make my own choice of what my son can eat and when, and part of me is annoyed that they are treating my DS with sweets for things he should be learning are just a part of life, he leaves this year though and even though I think it's hypocritical I don't really feel affected enough to make it my argument, I'm sure there will be parents though that feel stronger about it and I wish them luck!