I'm in my mid 40s. My Maid of Honour from my wedding is getting married for the first time in July (not through lack of offers I should say, as she's gorgeous!)
I'm sooo happy for my friend. But my friend lives abroad, so I see her never. My DH finds her a bit hippy-dippy (she is a bit. Part of her charm!). My DD has almost NO idea who she is.
My friend is the anti-bridezilla. she is paranoid about fuss, bother, putting people out. But she's also very, very happy and very, very excited. She has emailed me asking 3 times if DD wants to come and offering 'outs' if she doesn't. I have reassured her every time that DD will be there. The meal after is in one of the most expensive restaurants in the place where we live, which isn't cheap anyway because it's a tourist place (and the venue is famous, so add on the £££££s). Guests have not been asked for a penny and bride and groom are paying for us to get there from the church.
I told bride I wouldn't pull child out of school,but she'd join us afterwards.
Wedding it at 2pm in a Catholic church (so, not expecting it to be a short ceremony!).
DDs school finishes at 3.
DD is entered into a competition for an extra-curricular activity which is the most important thing in her life (she talks about it ALL THE TIME). She has been practising for it since September. There are 2 competitions, and she already can't go to 1 of them because we double booked (and paid for a lovely thing for her, which she will adore and is excited about, but is gutted to be missing one of the two competitions).
There is a rehearsal after school on the day of the wedding, very close to the competition which DD doesn't want to miss. If she goes she won't leave school at 3, she'll leave at around 6.
My friend doesn't have much money, but is paying for an expensive meal without a qualm.
My DD doesn't think this is important because she doesn't know this friend very well.
Although my friend hasn't seen DD very often (because she lives abroad) she is VERY interested in her and caring about her.
What should I do? How should I phrase what I do do the people involved?
"sorry, DD, this friend is very important to me, you'll have to miss your rehearsal"?
"bride, I'm sorry, DD has a commitment, can I pay for her meal?"
Also, the wedding will go on til around midnight, and DD will need to eat after her practice (if she goes), and DH and I will be THERE, although DH only there to support me.
Arrrgh! Please help me, MN!
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Wedding one: Absolutely not bridezilla - completely my fault. Arrgh!
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fatmomma99 · 12/06/2016 00:37
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