Then they will support someone in need rather than remove their child?
I ve name changed for this as this is going to be very identifying.
Last week me and dh went to bil house and we got a shock!
Bil has learning difficulties and a brain injury (water on the brain as a baby and has had over 20 operations on his brain)
He has sole custody of his pre teenage son (mother estranded from them)
We have always know his house to be filthy. Dh and his brother was brought up like that and his brother thinks his house is clean. Last week im sure it was worse!
I wouldnt even go to the toilet there or have a brew and i didnt even want to lean back on the sofa! I refuse to take my dd there as he is a heavy smoker too.
He has always been volatile and has behavioural issues. He has an obsession with calling people cunts, twats, faggots etc.
He is forcing his child to call people a faggot in the street etc.
His son has no social skills and has poor speech.
His son has gained approx 2 stone in weight in the last year and when we saw him last week he was very clearly very over weight. He had always been very very slim.
He openly admits to allowing his son to buy big bags of crisps every day after school and only drink cola. No water or anything else.
He doesnt have a social worker. Last week when dh went to the shop with bil, bil was shouting to people in the street calling them a MILF.
He is extremerly vulnerable with money and will offer his bank card out to his neighbours so they can use it!
He has been taken advantage of a few times.
When he was driving he used to drive very irratic around the street and used to think it was funny.
He has since had his licence revoked due to health reasons but did mention he may be getting it back.
I think bil could do with some support (we are 2.5hours away) and im thinking if social services pay him a visit they could put some support in place for him, maybe send him on some courses etc and assign him a social worker.
Dh has gone mad at this idea as he feels ss will just take his son away and he doesnt want that on his conscience. He feels that any stress towards his brother will result in him needing brain surgery again (this does tend to happen when he is under enormous pressure ) and he doesnt want to be responsible for that.
I dont think its wise dh speak to him about the way he behaves and the state of the house as he will be very defensive and volatile towards dh and he just wouldnt get anywhere with him.
Aibu to think he needs social services help and they will give him support rather than take his son away from him?
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