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to refuse to fix DH's bike for him, and make him learn how to do it himself?

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OohMavis Sat 11-Jun-16 20:31:29

He wants his innertubes changed. He's had the bike for two years and hasn't done a bit of work on it himself, having never owned one and having never had to lift a spanner in his life, he's always asked me to sort it for him. Up until now I've not had a problem, we all have our strengths and his are not DIY or anything mechanical. Mine are.

But I hate changing innertubes. It's a pain in the arse. And yanky. And I'm fat and pregnant and not in the mood. So I said no, and directed him to a tutorial on youtube grin

He's now talking about taking it to the bike shop in town and being charged £20 in a way that's supposed to change my mind. It's not!

He said if the roles were reversed and I asked him to carry lots of stuff to the garage for me (like yesterday...) and go into the loft (also yesterday) and clean the carpets (last week) and he refused, when I can't do those things myself, I'd have every right to be annoyed about paying someone to do it. Hmm.

I told him I'm posting this AIBU. He said go ahead. Over to you.

twirlypoo Sat 11-Jun-16 20:33:28

You are pregnant! When carrying a mans child, the least he can do is fix his own inner tubes grin Can you lie on the sofa eating chocolate while shouting step by step instructions at him?

PinkSnowAndStars Sat 11-Jun-16 20:34:17

I think you should do it..... If he's happy to step up and do everything else!

I can't change a lightbulb... I'm terrified of electric (long story!!) 3 out of the 4 bulbs in my bathroom are out... And Not so DH is refusing to do them... I may start refusing to do the washing!!

BowiesJumper Sat 11-Jun-16 20:35:44

But he COULD do it if he watched the video, you can't carry stuff or go in the loft because you're pregnant. So they're not comparable.

gleam Sat 11-Jun-16 20:36:27

Both of us would use the bike shop...and why not?

CaptainMarvelDanvers Sat 11-Jun-16 20:40:24

Can you not teach him how to do it?

I do think in a partnership you need to work to each others strengths and weaknesses though.

I stuck firmly on the fence.

CaptainMarvelDanvers Sat 11-Jun-16 20:40:47


MsJamieFraser Sat 11-Jun-16 20:43:09

My 10 year old child changed his innertubes and also amended his bike brakes! His dad showed him last year...


fuzzywuzzy Sat 11-Jun-16 20:44:20

As pp said he can't compare his recent chores with wanting you to repair is bike, you're pregnant and unable to do the things he did, he wants you to go up in the loft and carry heavy things whilst pregnant? Really?

He owns a bike, he needs to learn bicycle maintenance.

CMOTDibbler Sat 11-Jun-16 20:45:01

He needs to learn, so if he gets a puncture whilst riding he could do it himself rather than having to be rescued.

DH usually changes mine for me as I can't use one arm - but I know how to, and if I really had to, could by using my feet (while desperately hoping another cyclist would find me)

ivykaty44 Sat 11-Jun-16 20:47:07

Why do his inner tubes need changing? Do they both have punctures?

Ameliablue Sat 11-Jun-16 20:48:08

MsJamieFraser, I was far better at it as a child but then I stopped cycling and forgot how.

You could suggest he uses tyre slime which would be cheaper than the £20 and should cut down on the number of punctures. Having said that, I've bought some but not actually used it yet so can't be sure it is as good as it sounds.

KimmySchmidtsSmile Sat 11-Jun-16 20:55:58

I would do it. Except you're pregnant so fuck that for a game of soldiers.
I often use cycle repair shops anyway so unless things are really tight rather than dp being really tight I would happily pay someone else to do it.

OohMavis Sat 11-Jun-16 20:58:10

Exactly! He can but just hasn't learnt how yet. I did say I'd sit there and tell him how, while sipping a nice cold drink, and he said I could just show him... But that would mean I'm doing it, so nah.

Yeah both are gone. He's been walking to work for three days while he's been trying to persuade me.

And that's what I told him, I can't do those things because I am growing a human, not because I can't be arsed to watch a YouTube video!

GeoffreysGoat Sat 11-Jun-16 20:58:42

You're physically incapable. He's incompetent.

My 3yo will be changing his tyres (with help from vehicle-obsessed grandpa) as soon as I get round to getting him some new ones - he can't even pedal yet!

PrincessWellington Sat 11-Jun-16 21:07:29

Show him how to do one then he gets to do the other one

timeisnotaline Sat 11-Jun-16 21:09:30

It's a basic skill for riding a bike. Agree with pps who say it's not comparable because he can learn and you can't climb a ladder pregnant. You should fix it for him if he will breastfeed the baby though, that seems fair.

If only it was men who had their tubes tied not women I could make a great joke grin

Paintedhandprints Sat 11-Jun-16 21:10:19

But it's not difficult to change the innertubes? confused

OohMavis Sat 11-Jun-16 21:16:38

He'd know that if he tried. He'd find it easier than me too, he has big man arms as opposed to my weedy ones. Its just a pain in the arse he can't be bothered with so he's hoping fluttering his eyelashes and complimenting me on how well I fix his bike will get him out of it. Nope!

Lurkedforever1 Sat 11-Jun-16 21:21:34

Yanbu. Small dc can change them with someone instructing them and doing anything requiring strength. He's being pathetic

ijustwannadance Sat 11-Jun-16 21:26:26

He's being a tit. I can change innertubes but I couldn't be arsed and would rather pay £20 to get it sorted.

His choices were to do it himself or take to the bike shop. His problem. He could've sorted it days ago. Must enjoy walking to work.

LifeHuh Sat 11-Jun-16 21:28:32

Yes, he should learn - what would he do if he got punctures in both when he was out riding?
I think you should talk him through it but he should do the actual work - but really,it's not difficult is it,my biggest issue is getting the tyre back on the wheel and that's cos I have tiny hands ,if I was a bloke it'd be a doddle !

MrsSpecter Sat 11-Jun-16 21:37:41

Its really his problem to resolve. If he wants to resolve it with a trip to the bike shop that would be absolutely fine by me.

BarbaraofSeville Sat 11-Jun-16 22:49:35

YANBU. How far is his cycle commute and what would he do it he got a puncture en route?

If he can't change a tyre, maybe he would want to look at the slime inner tubes or similar.

I can change a tyre and my DP has been a bike mechanic in the past (he loved people like your DH who couldn't be arsed to do an easy 5 minute job but also laughed when they moaned about paying him to do it and always offered to just sell them the new inner tube unfitted) so hardly ever lets me do it, but I have always insisted that I needed to be able to do it myself and if he always did it for me I would never learn.

AHedgehogCanNeverBeBuggered Sat 11-Jun-16 22:57:59

He can't be arsed to change his own inner tubes? It's a doddle, after a 5 minute tutorial he'll be fine. It does take longer the first couple of times but after that it's a piece of cake. He needs to stop being a lazy man-child and learn an essential skill for any bike owner.

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