I have had an issue with my neighbour for the last 6 months which is when I moved in. His issue is me walking, my 12 year old walking, my cat walking and us living here.
I did first refuse mediation with him based on - I thought he was being unreasonable however I did agree to it a month ago and I just came back from the meeting (he wasn't present it was separate mediation)
He has said:
- we walk to loud can we stop walking around so much
- we slam the front door
- can we stop letting our cat play or get rid of it
- can we turn down the volume on the tv
- can you not play music
- can you not listen to the radio in the bathroom
- We walk around in slippers and have carpet and underlay which is not required by the way.
- I have a yale lock and no handle on my door, when i leave all i can do is pull the door via the yale lock, it will always make a sound its impossible not to.
- I had permission I could have a cat, my cat is 6 she does play sometimes but in my living room on carpet
- we listen to the TV at 10 volume
- my daughter plays music sometimes on her phone only we don't own a sound system
- again i play the radio in the bathroom which is on my phone, i actually don't like not listening to something when in the bath.
The mediation lady said as the gentleman is elderly then he will be more annoyed by noise so I should comply to the terms as to not stress him out.
How exactly is this fair? So i must literally tip toe around and pretend like I don't live here just to please him?
AIBU?
This man makes grunting noises constantly throughout the night and hums he also slams his back door or cupboard doors every time me or my daughter are in the kitchen. He is not innocent, I am not purposely trying to annoy him, he purposely tries to annoy me.
Is this how mediation should be? I have never done it before but I had a feeling he would make up or suggest unreasonable things which is why I refused to do it in the first place.