To think that charity people(31 Posts)
Knocking on your fucking door at 8:30pm and waking your child up should just say sorry and go away?
Not oh I'll keep my voice down, can you make a direct debit payment. Said no ill forget and go overdrawn and I can't afford it.
"Oh well we'LL send you reminders"
"Let me just explain blahblah blah guilt stuff blah"
I said I'll just do it online if I can afford it.
"No no you need to do it now really"
FFS go away
Easiest way to get rid is smile sweetly and say "oh I already have a DD with XXX"
Does my head in to be honest and I won't donate on principle because they are knocking my door, I choose to donate to who I want to, without a hard doorstep sale thanks!
Me and dp donate to every charity going. We are also already signed up with every broadband provider and are always in the process of getting new windows only way to shut the fuckers up if they think you already give.
I don't even bother to be nice - I just say firmly 'no I'm not going to give you any money' while shutting the door.
It still makes me feel guilty though which pees me off.
I always say no. Oh is rubbish and always gives to charity's at the door! Annoys the hell out of me
Put a sign up saying 'no unsolicited callers' and they won't ring the bell. Or just open the door, say 'no thank you' and shut it again in their faces.
Do. Not. Engage.
Last time i was asked if i didnt care about blind babies i shut the door in his face and complained to the charity they are relentless and it shouldnt be allowed.
He was so annoying as well, I was trying to explain that mostly I have no money in my bank account so it's really likely I'd go overdrawn and get charges etc he just kept saying "oh the last thing we want is for that to happen let me just explain" was really getting on my nerves. Apparently I get a choice of it going put on the 15th or the 10th and I was trying to explain that I get paid the week after that (true) so by then I will have no money at all "that's the last thing we want!" No it's fucking not its exactly what you want clearly.
And just a tenner a month isn't JUST a tenner a month to me either, it's a tenners worth of food before we run out of money and have pasta with pasta and pasta until payday.
Next time they come round and won't take no for an answer, just look at them slightly shocked and say look I know what's going on here but I'm married! They won't be back
I fucking hate that!
We get people coming to our door trying to sell us things, vote, donate - you name it. Almost every bloody day there seems to eb someone.
We now lock the gate when we are in the night - that tends to stop them
I know it's slightly different, but I have to quickly tell you what happened to me last Sunday. We had been out as a family but in separate cars (long story) I arrived home about 5 minutes before I knew dh would be home. I came in the house and left porch and front door unlocked but closed - ds went upstairs for a wee and I went to let the dog out. As I came back in from the garden, I heard someone calling, and lo and behold there was a man inside my porch with his head through my front door - it was unlocked but definitely 100% closed when I left it. Conversation went as follows:
Me: WTF! Can I bloody help you with something?! What are you doing in my house?!
Strange man: oh I did knock..
Me: there's a bell outside - Please remove yourself from my property!
Strange man: <holds out religious leaflet> oh you don't have to be like that!
Me: umm yes I fucking do, because you're a strange man who has let himself in to my property uninvited, now get out!
He shuffled out and went on his way with another man.
A whole new level of pushy rudeness, I thought!!
You can make or order a sign that says no cold callers, legally charities now have to take notice of them now (changed in September)
I don't get how people get so irate about things they can avoid, just don't answer the door to them or say no thank you & close it.
I have that sign!! I have it clearly displayed in my porch window and that
cheeky fucker man still let himself in, and we get cold callers all the time. The sign makes no odds whatsoever. It grates me that my home is my sanctuary and I just want to be left alone and people come knocking and asking for money.
Out of curiosity, how would you like charities to ask/raise donations if door to door pisses you off? Statistically people don't give unless they're asked so what would be a better way?
This isn't an arsey post btw. No matter how I type it out it sounds PA!
Flumplet totally agree with you having the rage! You didn't even have a chance to not open the door considering he just waltzed in!
Careful, well thought out advertising campaigns and organised events to raise awareness.
3am club- well I thought they couldn't get in. We've never had any before but only lived here a year.
It's flats with a fob thing to get in the front door so they can't usually get in and no one let's them in normally.
You just have to politely say 'no thanks' while closing the door in their faces - don't even start explaining why you can't/don't want to hand over your bank account details, because that just gives them a chance to come up with counter arguments.
3amclub - I do donate regularly to charities, including by direct debit, but would never donate on the doorstep or indeed to chuggers on the street. I have responded to appeals in newspapers, or after talking to someone on a charity stall at an event, or through a charity shop, among other things. All good, non-intrusive ways of fundraising.
I'd prefer they
a) came earlier than 8:30
B) accept it when I say I can't do it
C) think of a better way other than guiltily people who might not be able to aford it
Abbinob any fundraisers canvassing flats have to buzz each apartment individually to gain consent to entry (as in Code of Practice). Can't remember if it's law or just strongly urged, either way a complaint to their agency & charity would be the best thing
Im not going to complain because it was just mildly annoying and i could have put a sign up to make it clear i suppose.
Last yeat a street fundraiser person got me to agree to fill out a form with my details etc last year and then the next day started fucking texting me weird shit and asking me out
No wonder this has got your back up! You've not really had a good experience with fundraisers. They're not all that bad, honest!
Had a fab two round the other day. I'm a bit weird & love to chat to them, if they obviously care about what they're raising money for.
3am I would prefer it if these sort of charities didn't exist all together.
I don't give to charities that waste money with heavy TV advertising campaigns,pay their chief execs six figure sums, knock on my door, constantly send me begging letters.
I will help the local animal shelters, give towards a Facebook campaign to get a local homeless man off the streets, pay for the person in front of me if they are short for whatever they're buying, give away furniture to people in need, volunteer at my local RBL so that the elderly get a decent Christmas dinner. If we all did something nice for the person in need next to us the world would be a much better place.
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