My DS1 is 10. He's lovely but can be very difficult at times.
I would say DH is the same.
Recently DS's behaviour has got significantly worse. Throwing things, ripping things, slamming doors etc.
We've tried to give him firm boundaries and consequences to his behaviour - replacing things that he has broken, losing his bike for a few days.
However DH and I can't agree on the cause. Some is hormonal obviously, and some is general testing boundaries. However DS says over and over again that we don't love him, prefer his sibling etc.
I kind of see what he means.
DH can be very preoccupied with his hobby, and although he tries to involve DS1 it's very much on his terms. He's also quite a negative person, easily stressed, and can be very critical of everyone and everything. Sometimes he behaves as if we are all an inconvenience, getting in the way of what he wants to do.
I know he doesn't feel like this, but when he's tired and stressed, that's how it comes across. I think DS1 is very sensitive to it and it is having an effect on him.
They are like two deer butting against each other constantly.
DH thinks nothing of the sort and that it's attention seeking behaviour that we shouldn't pander to. He says I am making things worse by trying to talk to DS about why he feels the way he does.
I feel that no matter what I do, it's DH that DS needs and wants and I'm just banging my head against a brick wall.
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to think DS needs more attention not less.
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hiddengems · 07/06/2016 13:47
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