First time poster but long time lurker and occasional commenter! One concern here is that my story is so bizarre that it will instantly identify me so I don't know if this means the post will be removed but here goes.
DP and I got married overseas earlier this year, our only guests being our two DD's. The reasons for this were that i lost my dad 5 years ago and would have found a traditional ceremony here too sad, and we were always of the view that we wanted a non traditional and low fuss wedding anyway. The destination we married in was special to me and my dad and it was my DP's idea to marry there.
The idea was always to have a party for friends and family upon our return. We wed in secret (apart from our parents knowing), announced it on Facebook and then sent out invitations for a party for around 80 - a laid back affair, in a place we like and visit regularly.
Fast forward to two weeks before the party and the venue has a fire and is shut down for repairs. We inform all our guests - they all get refunds on their hotels, thankfully, and we tell them that it will be reorganised when the refurbishments and repairs take place.
We haven't lost out financially - the venue hadn't asked for a deposit because they are very laid back anyway - all the decorations etc I had bought will keep, with the exception of a sign I commissioned which has the original date on. It's not a dedicated wedding venue, which meant when they didn't want a deposit, I wasn't surprised because it made sense to me that to them, it was just another night of trading, with the exception that all their customers would be our guests. We had arranged and discussed final plans for food and welcome drinks - all the details were in place, but in comparison to organising a traditional wedding, it was stress-free and simple.
My dilemma now is that I feel like the moment has passed now for a wedding party. We wanted it to take place during the warmer months when there would be a chance of a fine evening so we could enjoy the venues outside area. I understand the venue will reopen around mid July, but my DH thinks we need to give guests 2 months notice for the rescheduled party, which would take us into late summer/early Autumn. This happens to be a busy time for DH's family, with lots of weekends already booked up for them.
I toyed with the idea of having a 1 year anniversary party instead but nothing is really grabbing me. I had a wonderful wedding day and in truth, don't feel the need to be spending a couple of grand (parents are kindly helping but the same point applies) on a party so long after the event. Do you think it would look too weird to explain to our original invitees that we have basically decided not to bother due to the freak circumstances of the fire? I did a thorough venue search before we settled on our final choice, and nothing really fitted the bill - all too formal and weddingy so if it goes ahead I will be sticking with our original venue (plus it will all be brand new and refurbished).
WWYD?! Sorry this is so long.
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amprev · 06/06/2016 12:30
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