To wonder why people find it so difficult to apologise?

(3 Posts)
DeadGood Mon 06-Jun-16 11:46:25

So far today the following has happened:

A lady I'm purchasing a service from for an upcoming holiday has advised, despite previous assurances, that it will cost 50euros more than quoted. Information delivered "in the end it will be X amount." Deposit is already paid, negotiations had already happened, and holiday is tomorrow, so I'm forced to accept it.

I've had to chase up a company who were due at my place to install some carpet, due between 8 and 11, and was told "oh the fitter was held up, but yes he'll be with you today". I'd made the appointment weeks ago for a time that was convenient to me.

A friend who was dropping by to return a lent item showed up 50 minutes after she said she would. When she was 30min late I sent a text saying "see you soon?" and was told "5 minutes away" (she then showed up after a further 20 minutes)

All of these were delivered without any kind of apology. What is going on?? I honestly do not mind if people are late but for crying out loud, let me know so I can get on with stuff! And a bit of extra expense is ok but at least she could have acknowledged that to would have been a surprise and inconvenience to me.

AIBU to think that it's really not that difficult to apologise? It smooths things over where otherwise there could be upset or inconvenience?

Sallygoroundthemoon Mon 06-Jun-16 13:06:51

YANBU. Drives me up the wall and I find myself getting all passive aggressive about it. How bloody hard is it to say sorry?

JapaneseSlipper Mon 06-Jun-16 17:36:02

YANBU, my FIL is terrible for this and once I actually snapped and said to him "SAY SORRY!!" Felt like a total idiot because who the hell TELLS someone else to apologise?! But he does the most irritating stuff and never, ever apologises.

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