dh sleeps in every weekend without exception unless I make very specific plans that he knows about and wants to do. When I say sleeps in I mean until mid day at least. Then still comes down in his pjs. Hes tired all the time. Won't see a gp. He's heading for 40 and me mid 30s. We have a 17yo.
We have great family holidays. Go out for dinners etc but I spend hours by myself lonely at weekends. It's a physical impossibility for me to sleep in.
I do go out and do things by myself etc but I am now becoming jealous of my friends and their partners with common interests. Other than holidays we have none. I know I'm a long way off retirement but it's scaring me that it will be as lonely as my weekends. He used to be more fun and outgoing. He used to be adventurous. I confronted him and said that if he'd presented himself as he is now I probably wouldn't have considered marrying him and he said that he knows that! He behaves like we're mates! No romance at all. If I ask for a shoulder massage it's a massive chore. Never compliments me. Tells me he loves me but I tell my mother that too! Doesn't feel like an intimate love.
Sometimes I feel like I really love him and others I just resent him for making me lonely! Is this normal after this long? I'm feeling stuck and old when I'm not! I don't know what to do because I have told him so he knows... To the point of crying and telling him how lonely I am so he knows. Things then improve for a couple of weeks but I'm sick of this cycle.
Any tips from experience? Has anyone been here (this has been going on for over 3 years now maybe longer) btw even after 2 week holidays he's still too tired to get out of bed!
Help and advice needed!
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