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what would you have done? Rice issue

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applesvpears Fri 03-Jun-16 23:29:56

So tonight I am making dinner for OH and it's fish and chips, for some reason the chips don't cook very well (not sure if it's the oven or the chips) so I chuck them and make rice to go with the fish instead. Upon calling OH to tell him dinner is ready and he has rice and not chips (it was uncle bens rice I have to admit) he says the following..
"Why did you give me rice? I don't want rice"
I tell him about the chips and that he likes rice so what is the big deal.
He says I should have asked and he bets there was nothing wrong with the chips, he doesn't like uncle bens rice and I should have asked.
I said I would take it off his plate and make him something else or he can just have the fish maybe and he starts arguing with me saying no I am not to take it off the plate etc He then starts to eat it and apparently there is something wrong with the fish so his dinner ends up in the bin.
I end up very upset A. Because I feel he has been ungrateful and rude and B. Because I am tired (we have an 11 week old baby)

Am I being unreasonable ?

LittleBoat Fri 03-Jun-16 23:32:20

I think that was the last meal you ever made for him.


TSSDNCOP Fri 03-Jun-16 23:33:44

He was an arse, but TBF that sounds like a minging dinner.

If he'd been less of a twat though he'd have popped out to buy chips not sulk like a twat.

Champagneformyrealfriends Fri 03-Jun-16 23:34:38

He's a dickhead. I have a 10 week old and DH wouldn't dare complain about any meal I make him. Don't cook again-make him sort his own meals out.

glasgowlass Fri 03-Jun-16 23:34:42

I'd have told him to ram his dinner up his arse. Ungrateful git.

Haggisfish Fri 03-Jun-16 23:35:42

He's a twat. We est bens rice and it's fine.

Gileswithachainsaw Fri 03-Jun-16 23:35:45

He sounds like he is being a right dick head. we all have disasters sometimes and whereas I'd inwardly roll my eyes at screwing up chips, I'd not be rude about it and either just eat what is given to me or see the funny side and order take.out.

unless it was part of a bigger picture of someone deliberately screwing simple tasks constantly it's hardly worthy if a mention tbh

sorry he was so mean to you flowers ajd congrats on the baby

WorraLiberty Fri 03-Jun-16 23:36:26

What TSSDNCOP said.

Mind you, do oven chips ever cook properly?

I've never seen the point in them. Give me fried chips every time grin

Blondie1984 Fri 03-Jun-16 23:37:33

If you had told him beforehand that it was fish and chips for dinner then I can (annoyingly) understand why he might be annoyed/disappointed when he get something different - you start to look forward to it etc etc however I think the way he behaved is awful and you deserve an apology

zzzzz Fri 03-Jun-16 23:38:23

He's being a prat. Tell him to go and buy a takeaway and get you a very large pudding while he's at it.

Oh and don't cook for him till he gets that he is being unpleasant.

VagueIdeas Fri 03-Jun-16 23:38:59

He was a twat, but you could have just cooked the chips for a bit longer.

neverAdullmoment79 Fri 03-Jun-16 23:39:35

Tell him to cook his own fucking dinner.

MummyBex1985 Fri 03-Jun-16 23:39:53

He's a twat.

but fish and rice isn't quite fish and chips it it

MadameDePomPom Fri 03-Jun-16 23:41:15

Fish and rice wouldn't set my taste buds alight when I'd been expecting fish and chips BUT his babyish reaction would have set my temper alight.

I bet your 11 week old is more mature.

applesvpears Fri 03-Jun-16 23:42:49

I normally make very nice food for him. I did say he can cook his own food in future (that would be interesting to see). I got very tearful and have gone to bed. He is doing the night shift with the baby tonight as he thinks I am over tired (which I am of course) still it's his problem if he is hungry. I made him a sandwich that he can eat if he wants.
Oh and his kids are staying this weekend, perhaps he would like to cook for them tomorrow night too.

CharminglyGawky Fri 03-Jun-16 23:43:13

He's an idiot!

I have horrible morning sickness (that lasts all day) and as my DH has taken over pretty much everything else for me I am still attempting to cook, he hasn't moaned once despite some very odd mealtimes and some very odd meals!

You have a tiny baby, you fed him a perfectly fine meal (if maybe a bit disappointing if he was expecting chips) if he wants to be an arse why isn't he cooking?

applesvpears Fri 03-Jun-16 23:45:54

I think my freezer might have turned off or the oven is broken or something as I cooked 3 things in it that didn't cook right. The chips were not undercooked, just weird and they are newly bought mccain chips too.

I know fish and rice isn't all that but I was just trying my best.

HeddaGarbled Fri 03-Jun-16 23:46:49

Fish & chips is a thing, fish & rice not, so I can understand him being a bit confused. But you are definitely not BU. You have an 11 week old. He should be fucking grateful for getting his meals cooked at all, the selfish, insensitive tosser.

Tomorrow, concentrate on the baby and yourself. Do not put yourself out to make him meals, cups of tea etc. When he is home over the weekend, he needs to step up and do these things.

applesvpears Fri 03-Jun-16 23:47:22

To be fair he is a pretty top guy normally. Not sure why he did this tonight.

Bloody uncle Ben has a lot to answer to grin

wiltingfast Fri 03-Jun-16 23:47:34

It is not your responsibility to feed your husband. If he didn't want it, he should sort himself out.

Honestly, if someone is kind enough to cook food for you, you should at minimum be kind about it.

MadameDePomPom Fri 03-Jun-16 23:47:48

At least he's doing the night shift. Hope you get some much needed rest and that you can both put this behind you in the morning. Fresh day and all that! And yes, maybe he would like to cook the odd meal.

Blondie1984 Fri 03-Jun-16 23:50:11

I think he should definitely be on catering duty this weekend as punishment ....

Nairsmellsbad Fri 03-Jun-16 23:50:30

You sound like you both need some sleep. Hope you can manage to get some and that it helps - it would me! flowers

applesvpears Fri 03-Jun-16 23:50:51

Wilting - that was my issue the rudeness (especially since he is normally not like that) he could have been polite about it that's all.

I can remember eating some noodles he made me once that were too spicy but I ate them up and next time I just asked (nicely) for less heat on his lush stir fry that I love so much

wiltingfast Fri 03-Jun-16 23:51:30

What are you making him sandwiches for? Seriously. Not your job. He's a grown up. He feeds himself.

When I was pg, I was terribly picky about food. Frequently cane in and just could not begin to stomach what dh had cooked. Did I make him get me something else? No. I just said I don't fancy that, I'll have some toast & cheese. Looking back it must have driven him batty but he never said a word.

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