to think that this is not right

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Idliketoteachtheworldtosing1 Fri 03-Jun-16 01:49:25

I was in my local supermarket today and encountered a woman who was dressed in pj's and a dirty old dressing gown, this was at 2pm by the way. Am I being unreasonable to think that this is not right?
It's not the first time I have seen this, sometimes it's those god awful onesies! It seems to be quite a common occurrence at our local morrisons. Now I'm no snob but what the hell is wrong with these women, how can they think that wearing your nightclothes in the afternoon and doing a full shop is acceptable. There is a lady who lives on my road and no matter what the time of day she wears a dirty old dressingown, even to collect her children from school. I don't understand people that don't take pride in their appearance, if I dressed like that my children would be mortified. Surely I'm not alone in thinking this??

DearTeddyRobinson Fri 03-Jun-16 01:55:01

YANBU but you will get a slew of posters telling you not to be so judgmental.
Me, I think it's fine to judge this stuff smile, get out of your pjs ffs! If you can get your shit together enough to do a sainsburys shop, you can put on some actual clothes.
I also shudder at the idea that people in their pjs haven't showered for some time...just yuck

NeedsAsockamnesty Fri 03-Jun-16 01:58:11

She's in the supermarket not attending a fashion parade

MrsSpecter Fri 03-Jun-16 01:58:43

I dont understand it. I have seen some parents do it at the school my DC go to. No dressing gowns (yet?) but pyjama bottoms and (usually) Uggs with a tatty cardigan wrapped over them. To me it just seems like pure laziness. Or they have nothing to get dressed for which is a depressing thought.

Idliketoteachtheworldtosing1 Fri 03-Jun-16 02:05:08

I know it's not a fashion parade but surely it is just a normal thing to have a shower and get ready for the day. I don't mean to be judgemental but I can't help it, it must be embarrassing for the children and kids can be cruel and could tease them about it. I don't mean getting dressed up as if you are going out for a night on the town, just dress appropriately, some women really have no shame at all!

kali110 Fri 03-Jun-16 02:11:02

I live next door to some shops.
I've certainly gone over there occasionally in my pj vest top and lounge pants.
I have a chronic pain disability so i'd rather go over to grab the few things in that to get what i need and risk severe muscle spasms than go without hmm

KoalaDownUnder Fri 03-Jun-16 02:11:32

YANBU.

Bedclothes are not outdoor clothes.

I have never seen this, and would be shock if I did.

seven201 Fri 03-Jun-16 02:21:33

I've seen it once and was a bit shockhmmconfused. I'm one for the occasional pj extreme lazy day but I have the decency to look embarrassed if someone knocks on my door in the afternoon. If I did have to pop out I would shuv some actual clothes on! If I wanted to make a regular thing of it (I don't) I would at least buy pj's that could be mistaken for lounge wear.

EttaJ Fri 03-Jun-16 02:26:38

It's disgusting. They have no respect for themselves so why would we be expected to have any for them. Socks ,Fashion parade my ass. It's called common decency. How lazy do you have to be, what message does that send to their children. I never see it here happen here but I have seen it in Walmart .

TheWitchesofIzalith Fri 03-Jun-16 02:28:20

YANBU, and I also think it's fine to judge this sort of stuff.

I still remember the shame of a Tescos in my city being on the main news years ago for having put a sign outside asking customers to refrain from wearing their nightwear. The BBC were interviewing customers about it outside and most of them sounded like wankers.
OF COURSE you get up and get washed and dressed ready for the day, where's your self respect if you can't be bothered to do that?
And popping next door in your lounge pants because you have health issues is completely different. You're not trundling around a massive supermarket for an hour at a leisurely pace in your leopard print onesie.
That's just ridiculous and lazy.

GirlOverboard Fri 03-Jun-16 02:35:10

YANBU. Maybe she had mental health problems? Because I can't imagine how anyone of sound mind could go shopping in their PJs and a dressing gown. Even if you offered me £1000 I would be too embarrassed to do that.

Spermysextowel Fri 03-Jun-16 02:38:29

I work from home 3 days a week & my biggest luxury is that yes, I can do it in my pyjamas.
If the school-time bus doesn't turn up I'll chuck a sweatshirt on & do the drive.
Usually I'll spend my lunch 30 mins having a shower/putting on something suitable for cooking dinner. At some point I may put a bra on if I don't want to offend anyone when I nip to Budgens.
I have a friend who won't leave home without full make-up. Even for milk. I find that strange but she'd probably find my baggy tracksuit trousers unsettling.

EcclefechanTart Fri 03-Jun-16 02:44:28

I wouldn't do it myself, but what does it really matter?

EcclefechanTart Fri 03-Jun-16 02:47:51

I mean, she wasn't naked - all her bits were appropriately covered up, with clothes, the same as anyone else in the supermarket. What does it matter what she covered them with? Just because it wasn't the clothes you would choose to cover yourself?

I just cannot see how anyone can get worked up about what types of bits of cloth someone chooses to put over themselves, as long as they're avoiding public indecency. (Actually I'm not much bothered about public indecency either, but that's another matter.)

Sunnsoo Fri 03-Jun-16 02:51:37

It's no wonder that a lot of these people don't have jobs.

Idliketoteachtheworldtosing1 Fri 03-Jun-16 03:03:18

I just think that they can have no self respect or any idea of common decency. Dressing gown lady lets her babby run up and down the street with no shoes on and hardly any clothes, it makes me cringe as I worry that the little mite may tread on some glass or dog poo, I guess it's just the protective mum in me, it seems there are so many women out there that have these kids and don't really care about their well being. It only takes babby to spot something like a cat on the other side of the road and he could run off and God forbid get hit by a car, we all know how fast the little monkeys can go when they sit something exciting, and you can guarantee that the mum will blame everyone except herself!

PPie10 Fri 03-Jun-16 07:05:03

Yanbu some people are just slobs, and it's how they live so no wonder she can think nothing of going out like that.

SpiceLinerandHoneyLove Fri 03-Jun-16 07:11:32

Health issues aside, yes it is lazy. If someone is in pyjamas at the school pick up it indicates they probably haven't had much to do that day. They should be the people with the least excuse to turn up in pyjamas!
It's about personal pride and standards.

Although I'm not sure about the example to children point. I'd rather a parent always picked up their child or went food shopping for their child, pyjamas or not, than didn't do it at all.

CaptainCrunch Fri 03-Jun-16 07:15:22

A lot of the parents at the school I work in pick up and drop off in pjs, they haven't bothered getting out of them for 7 hours. Lovely example to set

Keely93 Fri 03-Jun-16 07:16:11

I hate to see it in general, but in my local morrisons I don't mind evade it's right next to our local hospital so when I was told I could go to morrisons quickly if I wanted I kept my pyjamas on and stuck normal shoes on, wiggled a bra underneath and put a cardigan on and I know many have done the same. But usually I think yes, it's laziness!

YoungGirlGrowingOld Fri 03-Jun-16 07:18:21

YA so NBU

I used to drive to a particular office in a deprived area of Liverpool. I would say that about 70% of the parents doing drop offs were wearing nightwear. Mostly in slobby fleeces over a onesie with uggs or trainers.

I dont particularly give a shit for the adults - up to them if they have no self respect. I think it sets a terrible example to children though - surely the world of work will come as a shock to them if they think grown ups don't even have to bother getting dressed in the morning. It's lazy and poor parenting imho.

RoganJosh Fri 03-Jun-16 07:19:59

If I was going to do it regularly I'd make sure I had plain navy pjs and put a fleece on instead of the dressing gown. That's the bit I don't understand, it would be so easy to hide the fact that you cba to get dressed.

LouBlue1507 Fri 03-Jun-16 07:20:37

It sounds to me like you just have an issue with this woman all together! You've gone from judging her clothing to judging her parenting.. You've obviously just come on here to have a bash at someone... hmm

ExtraHotLatteToGo Fri 03-Jun-16 07:21:48

You could always get your story from read the other 96 billion threads about the exact same thing this really can't still be 'news'

IrisPrima Fri 03-Jun-16 07:23:15

YANBU it's minging

I usually presume depression or something as I can't imagine any other reason why you'd go to the shop in your dressing gown.

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