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to make DD (4) wear shorts under her nightdress?

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StarlingBirdsong Thu 02-Jun-16 14:57:42

So DD has just discovered it is possible to sleep in a dress (a birthday gift) and is now point blank refusing to wear her usual pjs (shorts and t-shirt). Not a problem, she needed new nightwear so i'm buying her a couple more.

However I was planning on getting some cycling short/cut off leggings for her to wear underneath. DH doesnt understand why and thinks its a waste of money and not needed. My thoughts are that she is only 4, so she comes downstairs in the morning and is turning cartwheels etc and generally mucking about with her brothers and i dont think its necessary to have bare bottoms waving about, or sat on my sofa.

Whilst i'm not a prude, i am conscious that she has an older brother and i think its important to set some ground rules for acceptable nudity - getting changed for bed etc is one thing but surely its not right for her privates to be on display while she's playing?

So what are your thoughts - shorts underneath? or perhaps just a pair of pants? to be worn all night or should i get her to put her pants on when she gets up? (also thinking of 'breathability' as it were if she's in something close fitting all night?)

(if its relevant i also generally encourage her to wear short leggings under her skirts and dresses, again due to age and her love of being upside down and climbing things - seems more practical than bare legs climbing a gate/on a slide etc)

AStreetcarNamedBob Thu 02-Jun-16 14:59:00

YABU I'm with your husband.

NoCapes Thu 02-Jun-16 14:59:06

confused just put underwear on her

PPie10 Thu 02-Jun-16 14:59:44

Just put some normal underwear on her like everyone else. No reason for bare bottoms to be on anything.

awhfuck Thu 02-Jun-16 14:59:47

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

OuchLegoHurts Thu 02-Jun-16 15:00:12

Eh, what's wrong with underwear?

poocatcherchampion Thu 02-Jun-16 15:00:29

Just get dressed she wakes up?

Shorts under all dresses is wierd imo

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rainbowstardrops Thu 02-Jun-16 15:01:23

Why can't she just wear a pair of knickers under it????

Ihatechoosingnames Thu 02-Jun-16 15:01:31

A pair of knickers would do?

Candycoco Thu 02-Jun-16 15:01:47

Just wear pants, agree privates shouldn't be on display downstairs in front of older brothers. But as she has no body awareness at 4 you need to tell her to wear pants

EnidButton Thu 02-Jun-16 15:02:34

hmm Sure I've seen this thread before.

MrsJayy Thu 02-Jun-16 15:02:44

Urm what ? Its a nightdress put pants on her have been reading the school dress thread op hmm

LegoCaltrops Thu 02-Jun-16 15:02:47

You'd really hate my house... bare bottoms every day here. DD will strip off & dance around the living room at the drop of a hat. just like DH as a child, apparently

StillMedusa Thu 02-Jun-16 15:04:02

Clean pants on for bed. Shorts seem a bit OTT!

GrimmauldPlace Thu 02-Jun-16 15:04:04

I get DD to put on some knickers when she's up and about, mainly because we have laminate flooring and I know I wouldn't want to put my bare bum on there. Wouldn't make a big deal out of it though, and leave it up to her whether she wants to wear anything under the nightdress to bed.

StarlingBirdsong Thu 02-Jun-16 15:04:10

Sorry if it wasnt clear - DH sees no reason for her to put anything on at all.

Maybe just pants is the answer then. (i hate nightdresses myself and hate wearing pants under my pjs as they feel restrictive which is why i didnt think of them first)

The daywear thing - surely its more comfy when climbing about to have shorts on than having delicate skin scratches etc when she's climbing trees/gates etc? but i'm a fan of leggings under skirts for myself too so perhaps thats why i favour it.

eurochick Thu 02-Jun-16 15:04:16

Surely she can just put some underwear on when she gets up?

MadameDePomPom Thu 02-Jun-16 15:04:38

Weird thread.

Marymaymay Thu 02-Jun-16 15:05:52

The Victorians have got a lot to answer for.

PalePolkaDot Thu 02-Jun-16 15:06:41

I've got 2 daughters and this has literally never come up.

Fwiw, they wear dresses all the time and play without difficulty.

lavenderdoilly Thu 02-Jun-16 15:06:43

Loose knicks for bed.

StarlingBirdsong Thu 02-Jun-16 15:06:44

havent read another thread no, just popped on to ask this before i finish my online shop for pyjamas!

ok ok, point made, i'm overthinking. will just ask DD to put a pair of pants on when she gets up.

GrimmauldPlace Thu 02-Jun-16 15:08:02

Completely missed the last bit of your post about wearing shorts under dresses in the day also. Why get her dresses in the first place then? Might as well only buy her shorts and trousers. DD wears dresses with underwear on underneath and has never had a "delicate scratch" hmm

PolaroidsFromTheDead Thu 02-Jun-16 15:08:42

I'd let her wear what she prefers personally. I wear knickers under nighties and my 4 year old does too. My older DD prefers not to. Both fine IMO. Leggings under a nightie is a bit odd. There is no need and they don't sound very comfortable to sleep in.

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