Would this be rude?

[DreamCloud99]

I was given an invite a few weeks ago to a low key wedding service for myself , DH and our twins. It's for a friend but not a close friend. My friend is lovely and I was honoured to receive the invite .

There was no mention of a "do" afterwards so I'm not sure if there is anything after , but I'm guessing there will be .

I told her the date should be ok for us to attend (I needed to check DH work schedule).

Yesterday one of my twins was offered a trial for a team try out ; these try outs only happen once every 5 months and he is desperate to go .

Unfortunately it's the same date as the wedding service and even the times overlap.

Would it be rude if I phoned my friend and said I'll be attending the service but DH and the twins can't make it ?

I'm very disappointed but I also think this is a great opportunity for my son .

Opinions please ?

[Dieu]

Not rude at all in my opinion. I would definitely let her know asap though, given that you've already had the invitation a few weeks now. Hope your son gets on well!

[Waltermittythesequel]

Not rude, IMO.

But tell her sooner rather than later.

[fitzbilly]

No, it's not rude. Your friend wants you at her wedding, I doubt she would mind if your children can't come too!

[Gwenci]

Nope, not rude at all IMO as long as you let her know ASAP.

Presumably it's your presence that's most important to her and you're still going.

[Onlyicanclean10]

I would must attend with the one twin, why would they go if not in the trial, and if the times are OK get your dh and other twin to join you all later.

She's your friend so she wants to see you really and was politely asking your whole family.

I wouldn't ring her as it might panic her or piss her off. She probably won't e en notice your dh and one twin not there until the end of the service anyway.