I've posted before about MIL being overbearing with DSS and DP to an extent. After a blow up a couple of months ago with DP, he finally admitted that she is gossipy and is vying for first place with DP & DSS. He doesn't like these things about her but that's the way she is and could I please for him, make an effort to ignore some comments and behaviours. I've tried I promise! But the last couple of days have had me . All through my pregnancy she has made remarks like "ooh aren't you big" and "oh she'll be a whopper". I am actually measuring small according to midwife and have told her this several times but she just says no your having a chunk/biggun or any other snidey comment about me or the babies size. For the record I am 32 weeks and still wearing my normal clothes and sleeping on my front, I was much bigger with first two pregnancies. I try to ignore and educate her but she talks over me. On Sunday I popped in to organise Fathers Day in a few weeks. She mentioned my size and then pointed to a chair she was painting for the baby. Then proceeded to tell me how she had bought it for DP's EXGF before me and her child (not Dps child). I was . Could have been a nice gesture without telling me that. Then she asks about names. I told her my favourite and she snorted and said yeah good luck with getting that one past DP. It dawned on me then that whereas DP had been okay with the name originally he had recently decided against it after speaking to her. It felt like a challenge that as she didn't like it there was no way DP would agree. I was furious. Today she has called in to pick my DDs up as she was taking them out with DSS for the morning. I tried to see this as a nice thing but first thing she said was how big I've got since Sunday and then proceeds to call me by DP's EXGF name (DSS mum). It was so obviously on purpose as I had already ignored her calling the dog by EXGF's dogs name. It's so passive aggressive. She then spent the morning with kids pestering DSS on why he was quiet and what had happened at home to make him so quiet. He plays up to this kind of attention but my DDs said he was fine apart from her pestering him to tell her something had happened at home (he is just tired as its school hols and they have all been staying up late). This week is the first time that DSS's Ex has made an effort to have her son in the holidays and MIL has decided that there is more to it than that and that she is not letting him go home. Then says he can stay with us. We have made plans tonight that would be difficult to include him in. We try and do these things when he is not with is so it's fair. But she is controlling she had decided that he is better off away from his mum. AIBU and hormonal/over sensitive? I can't get it out of my head how rude and mean she is to me.
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NavyAndWhite ·
31/05/2016 17:16
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